TELL ME MORE On the Fine Art of Listening Permian Basin Steps Meeting 1-12-16 Active Listening TELL ME MORE On the Fine Art of Listening

The POWER of Listening We forget it: To our children: CRITICAL OR PASSIVE To the ones we love: BOREDOM…DEATH OF LOVE More importantly…the ones we don’t.

The Power of Listening Each one of us has someone that listened to us. The reason…when we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand. Who do you go to for advice?

The Power of Listening

The Power of Listening….Illustrated Someone trusts you enough Evolves into this….but not overnight!

Hearing “Did you hear what I said?”; “I heard what you said!” Hard of Hearing or Hard of Listening?

Listening Getting Off Track

More complications to listening?

Barriers to Listening Knowing the answer Trying to be helpful Treating discussion as competition Trying to influence or impress Reacting to red flag words Believing in language Mixing up the forest and the trees Over-splitting and over-lumping

Listening; Getting it All Moving

The Power of Listening HOW DIFFICULT IS IT FOR ALL OF US… LISTEN…NOT ONCE PRESSING AGAINST LISTENING TO SOMEONE WITH YOUR OWN THOUGHTS… OR…YOUR OWN ASSERTIONS?

Listening Learned Habits Listen But…

Listening Skills To Learn Listen Give Time Restate Summarize Ask Questions What else?

“Safety Man” A Time for Reflection Generally speaking why do we have the reputation we do? Blow in…blow out Hard to know everybody Don’t know the language Don’t have to have a “Safety Man” to tell me how to do my job! To name a few

“Safety Man” A Time for Reflection Or a part of one of these…. Rock Star Tour: Entourage to big Blind Man Walking: Walks past hazard and says… Seagull Syndrome: Poop and leave Limousine Tour: Never get out of the truck Casper the Ghost: Never saw anybody, and nobody saw you Cameo Appearance: Quick sighting; in a big hurry

Listening….Really We ALL want to be listened to… We ALL want to be heard… See what happens when that other person senses you are truly listening! Try it today with Spouse Child Grandchild Co-worker

Your Life Could Depend On It! JSA’s/JHA’s Beyond Listening Your Life Could Depend On It!

Your Life Could Depend On It! Living Beyond Listening Your Life Could Depend On It!

Conclusion & Questions? Living Conclusion & Questions? “Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves.” – Albert Einstein