Healthy Relationships Planning 10

Strong, healthy relationships with others help us to: manage stress effectively, solve problems overcome life challenges feel good about oneself Increase life expectancy

Types of relationships Family Friends Co-workers School mates intimate relationships

Before you get intimate with someone Know who you are Love the person in the mirror Respect everything about yourself (mind and body) Value those things that are uniquely you

Intimate relationships monogamous relationships Just one person casual dating relationships Not serious Married relationships Life commitment

Intimate relationships heterosexual relationships. polyamorous relationships same-sex relationships

Maintaining a Healthy Relationship Get to know your partner Communication  Honesty See each other as equals You should feel safe and respected  Respect each others boundaries Be best friends Want to spend quality time together Have your personal/individual time

Abusive Relationships

Abusive Relationships     Puts you down when you are feeling good about yourself    Is aggressive toward people of your gender    Doesn’t listen to you or ignores you    Refuses to talk about or listen to your concerns    Attacks any part of who you are (beliefs, values, interests, personality)   

Abusive Relationships Tries to embarrass you in front of others    Disrespects you, insults you, humiliates you, or demeans you in any way    Questions where you’re going, with whom, and how long you’ll be gone    Tries to tell you who you can and cannot spend time with (including friends, family members, co-workers)  

Abusive Relationships Has jealousy issues or tries to control what you do, what you wear, who you see, or how you act    Does not have close friends of his/her own    Does not take responsibility for his/her own life and actions, and blames others for these things

Abusive Relationships   Does not respect your boundaries and personal space    Attempts to guilt you into having sex with him/her    Forces you to do things that you do not want to do sexually    Tries to scare you by doing dangerous things (such as driving too fast)    Becomes angry or violent when using drugs or alcohol

Abusive Relationships    Threatens you, your friends, family, or pets, or threatens to kill themselves if you do not do what they want    Has ever hit, pushed, kicked, slapped or choked you, or otherwise inflicted any kind of physical harm on you    Has ever acted violently toward you in any way (this includes, but is not limited to: pushing, slapping, hitting, kicking, biting, punching, strangling, or threatening you)

Remember

If you are being abused then…