Facilitated by KEYS Academy and Options HS with the ARISE Foundation Anger Management Facilitated by KEYS Academy and Options HS with the ARISE Foundation

Objective, Essential Question, and Product We will identify different things we can do to control our anger. EQ: In what ways can a person learn to manage and control their anger? I will discuss with the class my opinion of what Houston Rockets basketball star Charles Barkley and Oakland A’s baseball player Jose Canseco could have done to avoid violence?

Your Presenter… A member of the faculty or staff at KEYS Academy or Options HS Internationally Certified in Life Skills through the ARISE Foundation

Rules for Training Participation is crucial No wrong/stupid answers Respect one another No talking while others talk, No rude comments or noises Wait until you’re called upon

Why we’re here… Because we have to be To learn some skills that will carry over into adulthood To learn more about ourselves

How we’re going to do it… Discussion Everyone participates Some, very little lecture Activity or activities Some Conclusions

Questions?

Ice Breaker What is an ice breaker? Definition of an ice breaker: An activity used to lighten the mood and or get participants warmed up to the idea of interaction

Topic of the Day: Anger Management Have you ever been angry? Why is anger something you need to control but not crush? Is anger often a cover-up for other feelings?

Topic of the Day: Anger Management (cont.) How can out of control anger affect you? What are some anger warning signs?

Tips to Manage Your Anger… Learn to recognize the feelings behind your anger Identify situations that trigger your anger and avoid them whenever possible Take full, slow in-and-out breaths before doing anything else Take the edge off anger by moving and exercise vigorously Share your feelings face-to-face with interested family members and friends

Definition of “Anger Management” According to Merriam Webster: Anger management is the process of learning to recognize signs that you're becoming angry, and taking action to calm down and deal with the situation in a positive way. Synonyms include: Annoyance Impatient Hatred

Reasons To Manage Your Anger They are… It affects your physical health It upsets mental health It tampers social bonds It will send wrong signals to children It can jeopardize career prospects

Activity 1: Anger Case Study Charles Barkley At 2:00 a.m. on Sunday, October 26, 1997, Houston Rockets basketball player was drinking at an Orlando, Florida, bar with friends. An off-duty police officer working at the club said that Barkley had been relaxing and signing autographs. For reasons that were not reported, a man named Jorge Lugo, who was five feet, two inches tall and weighed 110 pounds, shouted curses and threw a cup of ice at the six-foot, six-inch, 252-pound Barkley. Barkley’s friend wanted to confront Lugo, but Barkley told her to ignore him. Lugo then threw a glass, hitting the woman in the jaw and knocking her off her chair. At this point, Barkley chased the man, lifted him over his head and threw him through a plate-glass window. Barkley was arrested and charged with aggravated battery and resisting arrest without violence. (Aggravated battery second-degree felony with a penalty of up to 15 years in prison. Resisting arrest without violence is a first-degree misdemeanor with a penalty of told up to one year in jail.) Barkley to reporters: “I’m always a target, but I’ll never back down. The public does not have a right to do things to you. If you bother me, I’m going to whip your ass. The guy threw ice in my face and I slammed his ass into the window. I’m not denying that I defended myself. He got what he deserved.” Source: The Orlando Sentinel, October 27, 1997. NEXT SLIDE

Activity 1: Anger Case Study Jose Canseco Former American League Rookie of the Year baseball player Jose Canseco was arrested in Miami on November 6, 1997, for assaulting his wife. The two had been arguing after a night out, Jessica Canseco told police her husband hit her in the face and on the back of the head while they were in a friend’s car, Canseco was charged with simple batter, a first-degree misdemeanor punishably by up to one year in prison. Canseco had previously been charged in 1992 for assaulting his first wife, Esther. He allegedly hit her car with his car. Prosecutors dropped those charges after he agreed to counseling. Source: The Miami Herald, November 15, 1997. QUESTIONS: What could Barkley and Canseco have done to prevent these situations from happening? Is losing your temper worth all the trouble it can cause you afterward?

Conclusions We must learn to manage our anger. Communicate assertively-not aggressively-before your anger gets out of control. Recognize your anger and keep calm. Be aware of and adjust your ay of thinking. Avoid or leave a stressful situation