The Five Strategies of The Virtues ProjectTM Speak the Language of the Virtues Recognize Teachable Moments Set Clear Boundaries Honor the Spirit Offer Spiritual CompanioningTM

Empathy Check Who is the presenter? What is The Virtues ProjectTM? What are the virtues? Is there a hidden religious agenda? What is the purpose of this workshop? What will I be expected to do? Is it too late for my family? Will my kids think it’s dorky? Will this be worth the investment?

The Gifts Within

4 Key Principles of The Family Virtues Guide The parent is the primary educator of the child. Children are born in potential. Their natural qualities can develop into positive or negative traits depending on how they are educated in the early years. Character develops as children learn to make responsible, moral choices. Self-esteem is a natural outcome of living by spiritual principles.

Encourage Mastery Encourage Meaning Name a Virtue

Ways to Speak the Language of the Virtues

Make a virtues “positivity sandwich” ACT With TactTM Make a virtues “positivity sandwich”

In Teachable Moments Stop Shaming Start Naming Virtues

“I saw the angel in the stone ~ and carved to set it free.” Michelangelo

What Destroys Conscience? Shaming Name-calling Beating or hitting Over-protecting Over-punishing Ignoring effort Lack of clear boundaries

What Builds Conscience? Naming virtues Clear boundaries The opportunity for reparation Acknowledging effort

Every Child Is Born In Potential

Boundaries Courtesy Respect Trust Assertiveness We will follow directions and treat each other as we would want to be treated. Respect We will listen to each other, fully present, without interrupting, rescuing, advising, comparing or teasing. Trust We will hold all personal information shared among us as private during and after this workshop. Assertiveness I will do what is right for me, participating in a way which is comfortable for me.

Assertiveness Respect Trust The A.R.T. Of Boundaries Do what is right for you Respect Be deeply present without advising interrupting rescuing criticizing teasing Trust Be worthy of trust. What we say here stays here.

Guidelines for Effective Family Ground Rules Be Moderate Have no more than 5 or 6 rules. Be Specific Fit them to your family. Be Positive Focus on virtues. Focus on Do’s rather than Don’ts. Establish specific, relevant consequences Let the “punishment” fit the “crime”. Make consequences Educative, not Punitive Give an opportunity to make reparation.

Guidelines for Effective Family Ground Rules Be Consistent Be trustworthy ~ keep your boundaries. Communicate Rules Clearly Use visuals. Humor helps. Make sure children understand the reasons when they receive consequences Ask “What was this consequence for?” Ground Rules are Non-Negotiable Make sure that you can live with the rules and then keep them. Be Flexible Revise the Ground Rules as ages and circumstances change.

Boundaries Keep Us Safe

Honor the Spirit Mastery Meaning Mystery

“I have no magic secrets. I make character my magic secret. I have no miracles. I make right action my miracles.“ 14th Century Samurai

(Using the Virtues Cards) The Virtues Pick (Using the Virtues Cards) Form a SHARING CIRCLE with 1 or 2 others Share something about yourself and YOUR LIFE at this time Read your virtue aloud and share how it SPEAKS to you today Others are to companion in SILENCE with no cross talk When each speaker finishes the others give that person a VIRTUES ACKNOWLEDGMENT

Personal Virtues Shield

Explore Mystery Honor Meaning

Simple Steps for Spiritual Health Create a Routine of Reverence Take time every day for reflection. Enjoy Yourself Spend non-compulsory time alone and with people you enjoy. Make Time for Friendship For listening and companioning, for being together. Lead your life with Integrity Tell the truth. Do it now. Expose yourself to Beauty Be in nature. Spend time with the Arts.

Images and Symbols in Dreams and Meditations Journaling Questions for Images and Symbols in Dreams and Meditations Who/What are you? What do you represent? What is your message for me? Why are you here? How can I carry out...? What actions can I take? How can I help (or serve) you? What is your gift to me?

Tools for Spiritual Growth Work with your VIRTUES to set spiritual goals to chart your course to invite the presence of the Creator Prayer as guidance, thankfulness, truth-finding as grief-work, communion for forgiveness Meditation Visualization Listening for Guidance Intuition – A Gut Feeling Journaling Dreams ~ Ideas ~ Log of Events Prayer ~ Meditation

Cultivating the Divine Virtues Surprising Simple Sacred

From the Family Virtues Guide “Idealists dare to have big dreams and then act as if they are possible... Idealism does not mean that you are an idle dreamer. Idle dreamers just WISH that things were better. Idealists do something to MAKE things better.“ From the Family Virtues Guide

What Re-creates You?

Spend Non-compulsory Time Together

Kinds of Prayer Petition Song/Dance/Art Service Contemplation Praise Thankfulness Communion Encounter with the Real Awareness of Presence throughout the day

Get to the Heart of the Matter The Art of Spiritual CompanioningTM Get to the Heart of the Matter

Don’t Get Furious. Get Curious!

The Art of Spiritual CompanioningTM Is Not Is A Fix Walk Along A Rescue Respect Curing Caring Advice Presence Sympathy Compassion & Detachment Telling Listening Victim-based Virtues-based

The Art of Spiritual CompanioningTM Offer receptive silence Ask cup-emptying questions Focus on perceptual cues Ask Virtues reflection questions Ask closure & integration questions Offer Virtues acknowledgments

The Spiritual CompanioningTM Process

Mentor’s Roles and the Five Strategies

In Retributive Justice the Teacher Is a Detective Asking … What was the crime? Who did it? How should they be punished?

In Restorative Justice the Teacher Is a Mentor Asking … What happened? Who was hurt? What virtues were needed? What amends can be made?

Guidelines for Establishing Clear Boundaries 1. Be Moderate 2. Be Specific 3. Be Positive - Virtues Based 4. Have Specific, Relevant Consequences 5. Make Consequences Educative 6. Be Consistent 7. Communicate Rules Clearly 8. Be Sure Consequences are Understood 9. Make Bottom Line Rules Non-Negotiable 10. Make Expectations Clear

What Is Your Leadership Style?

Students Need Visual Symbols A Rainbow of Respect Students Need Visual Symbols

Virtues: The Gifts of Character Integrity Joyfulness Justice Kindness Love Loyalty Moderation Modesty Orderliness Patience Peacefulness Perseverance Purposefulness Reliability Respect Responsibility Self-discipline Service Tact Thankfulness Tolerance Trust Trustworthiness Truthfulness Understanding Unity Assertiveness Caring Cleanliness Commitment Compassion Confidence Consideration Cooperation Courage Courtesy Creativity Detachment Determination Diligence Enthusiasm Excellence Flexibility Forgiveness Friendliness Generosity Gentleness Helpfulness Honesty Honor Humility Idealism

Speak the Language of the Virtues

Conscience Makers & Breakers

A Virtues Project School Offers

Create a Virtues Based Vision Statement

Create a Virtues-based Vision

Business Is Business

Business

Tactics

Virtues Project Strategies Corporate Applications Organizational Assessment Leadership Development Creating a Vision Statement Creating a Mission Statement Cultural Change

Corporate Applications Virtues Project Strategies Corporate Applications Performance Appraisal Act with TACT Strategic Planning The Five Strategies Staff Development Personal Virtues Profile

Give your partner a Virtues Acknowledgment Teachable Moments Describe one of your darkest hours at work. What virtues were needed? Describe one of your shining moments at work. What virtues were involved? Give your partner a Virtues Acknowledgment

Strategic Planning With the Five Virtues Strategies Naming Virtues What are our core virtues, our strengths? What VIRTUES do we need to cultivate to move forward? What is the Teachable Moment For our organization? How clear are our Boundaries? What boundaries do we need to establish? How shall we honor the Spiritual Dimension? What rituals, rites of passage, ceremonies are needed? What are our true issues? What needs to be heard? How well do we companion one another?