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Your Expectations Myth: A good marriage will always be romantic. Reality: There will be ups and downs. “Being in love is something you DO” (C.S. Lewis). To love is a decision rather than just a feeling. Myth: My spouse will make me happy. Reality: No one has the power or ability to make another person happy. A person’s sense of happiness must come from deep inside him / herself. It is a personal choice. Myth: If we really love each other, everything else will fall into place. Reality: marriage needs constant nurturing. It is a dynamic relationship rather than a static one. (click)

Your Expectations Myth: My partner should intuitively know my needs. Reality: No one has the ability to read their partner’s mind. Needs must be verbalized in clear language. Myth: conflict means a lack of love. Reality: conflict is inevitable, we are different. Conflict, when dealt with appropriately, is a source of growth for the relationship. Myth: We must have the same definition of what it means to be loving. Reality: you have had different life experiences, you are man and woman, you will view love differently (love and respect connection). To have a loving marriage, you have to put yourself out and love your partner the way he / she wants to be loved. End