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Terms to Know (Copy this chart into your notebook) Page # Definition Habit 8 Paradigm 13 Principle 24 Personal Bank Account (PBA) 34

What is this book about? 7 life changing habits for success Provides teens with a step-by-step guide to: Improve self-image and self-esteem Build healthy life-long relationships Manage stress and conflict Set and achieve their goals

Why is it worth reading? It is a secondary version of Steven Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People which has sold 15 million copies and continues to be a #1 seller in relation to business and leadership It is a national bestseller Hundreds of testimonials have proven it to actually work!

Discussing Paradigms “Paradigms are perceptions about the way things are.” “Paradigms are like glasses. When you have incomplete paradigms about yourself or life in general, it’s like wearing glasses with the wrong prescription.” SO CHANGE THEM WHEN NECESSARY!

When perceptions change based on new information Paradigm Shift When perceptions change based on new information

Paradigms to Consider Paradigms of Self Paradigms of Others Negative paradigms of yourself can limit you while positive paradigms can help you achieve Paradigms of Others We often judge people (peers, parents, teachers, etc.) before we have all the facts (this is where stereotypes and prejudice begin, so beware) Having incorrect paradigms of others may be preventing you from real communication and improvement

Paradigms of Life: What Defines You? Friends-Centered: Defined by friends Boyfriend/Girlfriend-Centered: Defined by your significant other Stuff-Centered: Defined by your material wealth and possessions School-Centered: Defined by your academic achievement Parent-Centered: Defined by your parents expectations Sports/Hobby-Centered: Defined by your athletic achievements or personal interests Enemy-Centered: Defined by your hate for a group, person, or idea Self-Centered: Defined by the idea that everyone else’s world is centered on you

Paradigms of Life: What Defines You? Friends-Centered: Defined by friends Boyfriend/Girlfriend-Centered: Defined by your significant other Stuff-Centered: Defined by your material wealth and possessions School-Centered: Defined by your academic achievement Parent-Centered: Defined by your parents expectations Sports/Hobby-Centered: Defined by your athletic achievements or personal interests Enemy-Centered: Defined by your hate for a group, person, or idea Self-Centered: Defined by the idea that everyone else’s world is centered on you

What SHOULD Define You = Principles Universal values that apply to all human beings despite language, culture, social class, gender, etc. Principles never change. They cannot be bought or sold. If you live by them you will excel, if you break them, you fail. Examples: ROCKS Honesty Integrity Loyalty Moderation Fairness

Create Your Own Wheel of Principles Choose the principles that you want to define you Important to you, but should not be your center 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 Example: Respect Ownership Commitment Kindness Safety Earning my Master’s Degree Family Friends Free time My dog My marriage My wardrobe Teaching

The Personal Bank Account

3 Tips to Building Self-Esteem: Deposits into you PBA https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zq-fSpFhNYw

Symptoms of a low PBA balance Symptoms of a high PBA balance You cave into peer pressure easily You struggle with feelings of worthlessness You’re overly concerned with what others think of you You act arrogant to help hide your insecurities You self-destruct by getting heavily into things that are unhealthy You get jealous easily You stand up for yourself and resist peer pressure You’re not overly concerned about being popular You see life as a generally positive experience You trust yourself You are goal driven You are happy for the success of others

How to Maintain Your PBA Deposits Withdrawals Keep Promises to yourself Do small acts of kindness Be Gentle with yourself Be honest Renew yourself Magnify your talents Break personal promises Keep to yourself Beat yourself up (self-criticize) Lie Wear yourself out Hide your talents