Wellness 10: Outcome W5 Assess one’s self-awareness and self-management for the purpose of enhancing the well-being of self and others. Created by Jennifer Foley

Self Awareness One’s ability to perceive own emotions and tendencies.

Self Management One’s ability to stay flexible and positively direct personal behaviour.

Self-Awareness Strategies Quit treating feelings as good or bad Observe the ripple effect from your emotions Lean into your discomfort Identify triggers for your emotions Know who or what pushes your buttons Watch yourself like a hawk Keep a journal of emotions Don’t be fooled by moods Stop and ask yourself why you do the things you do Visit your values Check yourself Spot your emotions in books, movies and music Seek Feedback from ’Sounding Boards’ Observing the reactions of others to your emotions Get to know yourself under stress Others? Source: http://blog.econsultant.com/15-self-awareness-strategies

Introvert vs Extrovert Where do you put your attention and get your energy? Do you like to spend time in the outer world of people and things (Extraversion), or in your inner world of ideas and images (Introversion)? Everyone spends some time extraverting and some time introverting. Don’t confuse Introversion with shyness or reclusiveness. They are not related. Take a minute to ask yourself which of the following descriptions seems more natural, effortless, and comfortable for you? Adapted from Looking at Type: The Fundamentals by Charles R. Martin (CAPT 1997)

Extroverts I like getting my energy from active involvement in events and having a lot of different activities. I’m excited when I’m around people and I like to energize other people. I like moving into action and making things happen. I generally feel at home in the world. I often understand a problem better when I can talk out loud about it and hear what others have to say. The following statements generally apply to me: I am seen as “outgoing” or as a “people person.” I feel comfortable in groups and like working in them. I have a wide range of friends and know lots of people. I sometimes jump too quickly into an activity and don’t allow enough time to think it over. Before I start a project, I sometimes forget to stop and get clear on what I want to do and why.

Introverts I like getting my energy from dealing with the ideas, pictures, memories, and reactions that are inside my head, in my inner world. I often prefer doing things alone or with one or two people I feel comfortable with. I take time to reflect so that I have a clear idea of what I’ll be doing when I decide to act. Ideas are almost solid things for me. Sometimes I like the idea of something better than the real thing. The following statements generally apply to me: I am seen as “reflective” or “reserved.” I feel comfortable being alone and like things I can do on my own. I prefer to know just a few people well. I sometimes spend too much time reflecting and don’t move into action quickly enough. I sometimes forget to check with the outside world to see if my ideas really fit the experience.

IQ = Intelligence Quotient

What Do We Know About IQ? Burning Queston?? Predicts school grades relatively well Does not predict success in life Predicts 6% of jobs success Peaks in late teens Culture-bound Racial controversies Gets you in the door Burning Queston?? Why do some people with a high IQ struggle in life while some people with a moderate IQ succeed?

Mr. Emotional Intelligence The Office – “Listening Skills” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yx5jx8fjh7Q&feature=related The Elevator – “Empathy” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6GT0EBOJ7XA&feature=related The Water Cooler – “Emotion Radar” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qju6ytr-_-Q&feature=related

EQ = Emotional Quotient

What Emotional Intelligence Is NOT… Cognitive Intelligence (IQ) Aptitude Achievement Vocational Interest Personality Static Results (They can change over time) IQ Versus EQ Cognitive, intellectual, logical, analytical & rational abilities Emotional, social, communicative & relational abilities Personal information bank – memory, vocabulary, etc. Grasping own as well as others’ wants & needs Gauges how well one acquires and organizes new knowledge Gauges how well one copes with environmental demands & pressures

Emotional Intelligence A cross-section of emotional & social abilities that determine how well we: Understand and express ourselves Understand and relate with others Cope with daily demands & pressures Source: The BAR-on Model of Emotional Intelligence

BARon Model for Emotional Intelligence by Reuven Baron, PhD Source: http://www.salesleadershipdevelopment.com/smst2.asp

Emotional Intelligence Influences Internal External Thinking Patterns “Self Talk” Tapes Values Others? Triggers Stressors

Emotional Intelligence & Gender Across Cultures & Nationalities: Women tend to score higher in two categories - social responsibility and empathy Men tend to score higher in one category - stress tolerance In North America: Women tend to score higher in one category: interpersonal relationship Men tend to score higher in one category: self-regard

Emotional Intelligence & Success Success is defined as your ability to set and achieve your personal and professional goals. IQ’s relevance to success is estimated to be low 4-25%, may be no higher than 10% (Sternberg, 1997) EQ’s relevance to success is estimated to be high 27-45% of job success (Stein & Book, 2000) Common sense, as well as research, now tells us that being able to make your way through a complex world by successfully dealing with people & your environment is the most important element of intelligence… EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (EI).

Assess YOUR Emotional Intelligence (EQ) Queendom – The Land of Tests http://www.queendom.com/tests/access_page/index.htm?idRegTest=3037#n Institute for Health & Human Potential http://www.ihhp.com/quiz.php Discovery Health http://cl1.psychtests.com/take_test.php?idRegTest=2998

Listening Continuum Burning Questions?? Ignoring ↔ Pretending ↔ Selecting ↔ Attending ↔ Empathizing Burning Questions?? Where Do You USUALLY Fall On This Scale? Where Would You LIKE To Fall On This Scale?

Proactive vs Reactive Decision-Making… What’s the Difference?

Through which lens do you make YOUR decisions? Analytical Conceptual Impulsive Procrastinating Flexible Proactive Skeptics Fatalistic Dependant Followers Behavioral Agony Impulse Escape Spontaneous Thinkers Controllers Charismatic Play it Safe Compliance Rational Intuitive Emotional Normative Avoidant Consensus What’s YOUR Preferred Decision-making Style?? McGraw-Hill Irwin Publishers http://www.mhhe.com/business/management/buildyourmanagementskills/updated_flash/topic10a/quiz.html