The Value of Informal Networks and Mentoring Relationships Presentation by: Laurie Baird, Julie Graham and Danielle Storms April 10, 2013

Connecting with others…it’s all about honesty….

There are many emotions that play a role in building our relationships There are many emotions that play a role in building our relationships. - Relationships create networking…. Disgusted Sad Angry

Emotions Emotional Balance Alter thought process to direct attention to some things and away from others Positive or negative qualities Activated by incidents throughout the day Anyone can become angry – that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not easy ARISTOTLE Emotional Balance Head – Reasoning Heart – Feeling Need balance of the two

Self-Disclosure & Informal Mentoring Self-disclosure is the process of letting another person know what you think and want or how you feel. Important way to let yourself be known to others. Improve interpersonal communication, resolve conflict, and strengthen interpersonal relationships. Increased accuracy in communication. Reduction of stress Increased self-awareness. Stronger relationships Increased Authenticity

Trust/Networking/Informal Mentoring Building Trust Destroying Trust Openly share information Admit your mistakes Network with coworkers Display competence Be honest all the time Be clear in your convictions Be true to your values Withhold information Over up mistakes Keep distance Display incompetence Be honest part of the time Avoid commitment Ignore your values.

As you build your relationships – something happens: Laurie Kim Danielle Fundrasing Event Job Opportunity

Networking happens over time…. Invest Identify and hug ‘the informal Hub.’ Set-up “formal” networks around specific work areas/tasks. Define additional “formal” leaders. Establish protocols for participation. Provide incentives for participation Create accountability

5 Key Steps to Mentoring Relationships Assess your needs Set Goals and Clarify Expectations Focus on Cultivating a Relationship Seek Opportunities to Maintain Contact Develop a Mentoring Network

To Show or Not to Show? That is the Question… Emotions Matter!