Self Concept and Self-Esteem

WHY study: SELF-CONCEPT SELF-ESTEEM To have a more positive self-awareness To see yourself honestly and to like or at least accept yourself To remove the internal barriers that keep you from doing your best.

What is the difference between Self-Concept and Self-Esteem

Your VIEW of yourself - - SELF-CONCEPT Your VIEW of yourself - - The ENTIRE picture... It changes S L O W L Y

You see yourself as a LOVEABLE and WORTHWHILE person… SELF-CONCEPT POSITIVE You see yourself as a LOVEABLE and WORTHWHILE person…

CHARACTERISTICS SELF-CONCEPT of people with Asks questions POSITIVE SELF-CONCEPT Asks questions Persistent – keeps trying – finds new ways to do things Take time to acknowledge personal accomplishments Sets goals

NEGATIVE SELF-CONCEPT You feel uncertain and uncomfortable about yourself - - - you fear possible rejection

CHARACTERISTICS SELF-CONCEPT of people with Jump to conclusions NEGATIVE SELF-CONCEPT Jump to conclusions Look at only one detail and disregard the big picture Minimize achievements Magnify faults Blaming others. What better way to deny our weaknesses than to blame others for our problems or for the world's problems? Being an overly nice people-pleaser or rescuer or self-sacrificing martyr.

BUILDING SELF-CONCEPT Set ATTAINABLE goals based on your WANTS and NEEDS List and develop YOUR personal strengths and abilities Recognize what YOU have accomplished each step of the way LOOK FOR positive relationships with others

The way YOU THINK and FEEL about yourself SELF-ESTEEM The way YOU THINK and FEEL about yourself Can change from MOMENT to MOMENT

Feeling POSITIVELY about yourself, your actions, and your future HIGH SELF-ESTEEM Feeling POSITIVELY about yourself, your actions, and your future

CHARACTERISTICS SELF-ESTEEM of people with HIGH Seeks the challenge of worthwhile and demanding goals More ambitious in what one hopes to experience in life More capable of having open, honest and appropriate communications with others Self-confident – wants to be with other self-confident people.

Feeling NEGATIVELY about yourself, your actions, and your future LOW SELF-ESTEEM Feeling NEGATIVELY about yourself, your actions, and your future

CHARACTERISTICS SELF-ESTEEM of people with LOW Uncertain of own thoughts and feelings Fearful of change – seeks the safety of the familiar and undemanding People with low self- esteem are often drawn to each other – these relationships are often destructive – hurtful rather than helpful Feels anxious about the listener’s response

BUILDING SELF-ESTEEM Seek to understand whatever has an influence on your life – be aware of the world around you Be respectful toward yourself – refuse to reject yourself Recognize that you are the source of your own choices, actions – YOU make your life what it is

BUILDING SELF-ESTEEM Stand up for your values and feelings – find appropriate ways to express them Take responsibility for identifying your goals Exhibit your principles of behavior to others. Keep your promises and honor your commitments