Agenda – March 29 Building a Personal Mission Outdoor Fun Commitment

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People (Covey, 1989)

Of all the things that can boost inner work life, the most important is making progress in meaningful work. https://hbr.org/2011/05/the-power-of-small-wins

Balanced leaders use all four dimensions Mind Body Heart Spirit

Private Victory: The first three habits are intended to teach a person how to move out of a state of dependence and beyond a state of independence. Covey refers to his ideal state as interdependence, which begins with the creation and manifestation of a highly developed sense of personal values and goals. Public Victory: Habits four through six complete the steps that lead to interdependence by showing how to align one's needs and desires with those of other people and create effective relationships.

Habits Defined A habit is the intersection of knowledge, skill and desire. Knowledge is the what to do and why. Skill is the how to do. Desire is the motivation, the want to do.

Knowledge Desire Skill Habits Defined Habit

Aristotle “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.”

Steven Covey “Happiness can be defined, in part at least, as the fruit of the desire and ability to sacrifice what we want now, for what we want eventually.”

The Four Dimensions Body: Proactive health Mind: Read broadly and keep learning. Heart: Deep respectful listening and serving others. Spirit: Recognize our need for meaning, perspective and understanding that we cannot explain everything.

Creating your own mission Please write down ten words or phrases that make you happy and/or bring you satisfaction.

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People (Covey, 1989)

Habit #1 Be Proactive Response - Ability You can either be proactive or reactive when it comes to how you respond to certain things. When you are reactive, you blame other people and circumstances for obstacles or problems. Being proactive means taking responsibility for everything in your life. Initiative and taking action will then follow. Between stimulus and response, we have the power of free will to choose our response.

Habit #1 Instead of reacting to or worrying about conditions over which they have little or no control, proactive people focus their time and energy on things they can control. The problems, challenges, and opportunities we face fall into two areas--Circle of Concern and Circle of Influence. Proactive people focus their efforts on their Circle of Influence. They work on the things they can do something about: health, children, problems at work. Reactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Concern--things over which they have little or no control: the national debt, terrorism, the weather. Gaining an awareness of the areas in which we expend our energies in is a giant step in becoming proactive.

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People (Covey, 1989)

Habit #2 Begin with the End In Mind. This chapter is about setting long-term goals based on "true north" principles. Do you have a "personal vision statement“? Visualization as an important tool to develop this. What about your organizational vision statement?

Habit #2 One of the best ways to incorporate Habit 2 into your life is to develop a Personal Mission Statement. It focuses on what you want to be and do. It is your plan for success. It reaffirms who you are, puts your goals in focus, and moves your ideas into the real world. Your mission statement makes you the leader of your own life. You create your own destiny and secure the future you envision.

Vision "Perhaps the most important vision of all is to develop a sense of self, a sense of your own destiny, a sense of your unique mission and role in life, a sense of purpose and meaning."                                                                  Dr. Stephen R. Covey, from The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness

Creating your own mission Please write down ten words or phrases that describe you.

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People (Covey, 1989)

Habit #3 Put First Things First. A framework for prioritizing work that is aimed at short-term goals, at the expense of tasks that appear not to be urgent, but are in fact very important. Delegation is an important part of time management. Successful delegation, according to Covey, focuses on results and benchmarks that are to be agreed upon in advance, rather than prescribed as detailed work plans.

The Myth of Time Management Time – “the great leveller” Home truth -Time is the only universally distributed resource. © Andrew Lothian, Insights, Dundee, Scotland, 2006. All rights reserved. INSIGHTS, INSIGHTS DISCOVERY and INSIGHTS WHEEL are registered Trade Marks.

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“Take care of the rocks first – the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.” FILLED WITH SAND © Andrew Lothian, Insights, Dundee, Scotland, 2006. All rights reserved. INSIGHTS, INSIGHTS DISCOVERY and INSIGHTS WHEEL are registered Trade Marks.

Please write down your big rocks: Mind Body Heart Spirit

Time Management Matrix Urgency Urgent Not Urgent II I X X High X X X The Gold Mine Importance X X III X X X Low IV X Prioritize to identify the “Critical Few” –get them done fast! Stephen Covey “Seven Habits of Highly Effective People”

Exercise For the week immediately following this session, please track your activities. Be very honest and track each 15 minute period. At the end of each day, code each part of your day by Quadrant. At the end of that week, plan the following week. Remember to plan the time to do the required home-work assignment. Repeat © Andrew Lothian, Insights, Dundee, Scotland, 2006. All rights reserved. INSIGHTS, INSIGHTS DISCOVERY and INSIGHTS WHEEL are registered Trade Marks.

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People (Covey, 1989)

Habit #4 Think Win/Win An attitude whereby mutually beneficial solutions are sought that satisfy the needs of oneself, or, in the case of a conflict, both parties involved. The Emotional Bank Account

Habit #4 Five Dimensions of Win/Win Character: The foundation of Win/Win Integrity. The value we place on ourselves. Maturity. The balance between courage and consideration. Abundance Mentality. There is plenty out there for everybody. Relationship: Courtesy, respect and appreciation for the other person and his point of view. Agreements: Cover a wide scope of interdependent action. Desired results, Guidelines, Resources, Accountability, Consequences Supportive Systems: Reward systems must reflect the values of the mission statement. Processes: The route to Win/Win See the problem from another point of view. Identify the key issues and concerns involved. Determine what results would constitute a fully acceptable solution. Identify possible new options to achieve those results.

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People (Covey, 1989)

Habit #5 Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood. Giving out advice before having empathetically understood a person and their situation will likely result in rejection of that advice. Thoroughly reading out your own autobiography will decrease the chance of establishing a working communication.

Habit #5 Because you so often listen autobiographically, you tend to respond in one of four ways: Evaluating: You judge and then either agree or disagree. Probing: You ask questions from your own frame of reference. Advising: You give counsel, advice, and solutions to problems. Interpreting: You analyze others' motives and behaviors based on your own experiences. You might be saying, "Hey, now wait a minute. I'm just trying to relate to the person by drawing on my own experiences. Is that so bad?" In some situations, autobiographical responses may be appropriate, such as when another person specifically asks for help from your point of view or when there is already a very high level of trust in the relationship.

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People (Covey, 1989)

Habit #6 When people begin to interact together genuinely, and they're open to each other's influence, they begin to gain new insight. The capability of inventing new approaches is increased exponentially because of differences. Valuing differences is what really drives synergy. Do you truly value the mental, emotional, and psychological differences among people? Or do you wish everyone would just agree with you so you could all get along? Many people mistake uniformity for unity; sameness for oneness. One word--boring! Differences should be seen as strengths, not weaknesses. They add zest to life.

Habit #6 Synergize One plus one equals three – or more. Apply collaborative decision making. Value differences. Build on divergent strengths. Leverage creative collaboration. Embrace and leverage innovation. It is put forth that when synergy is pursued as a habit, the result of the teamwork will exceed the sum of what each of the members could have achieved on their own. “The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.”

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People (Covey, 1989)

Habit #7 Sharpen the saw Focuses on balanced self-satisfaction: Regain what Covey calls "production capability" by engaging in carefully selected recreational activities. Sharpen the Saw means preserving and enhancing the greatest asset you have--you. It means having a balanced program for self-renewal in the four areas of your life: physical, social/emotional, mental, and spiritual. Here are some examples of activities…

Habit #7 Physical: Beneficial eating, exercising, and resting Social/Emotional: Making social and meaningful connections with others Mental: Learning, reading, writing, and teaching Spiritual: Spending time in nature, expanding spiritual self through meditation, music, art, prayer, or service As you renew yourself in each of the four areas, you create growth and change in your life. Sharpen the Saw keeps you fresh so you can continue to practice the other six habits. You increase your capacity to produce and handle the challenges around you. Without this renewal, the body becomes weak, the mind mechanical, the emotions raw, the spirit insensitive, and the person selfish. Not a pretty picture, is it?

Personal Execution: “Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” Steven Covey

Creating your own mission Please write down ten words or phrases that reflect the changes you would like to make to yourself.

Creating your own mission Cross five words or phrases off each list.

Creating your own mission Please write a mission/vision for yourself using the words and phrases left on your paper.