Lesson 1: Foundations of a Healthy Relationship Chapter 6 Lesson 1: Foundations of a Healthy Relationship

Building strong relationships is important to your overall health. BIG IDEA Building strong relationships is important to your overall health.

Main Idea You have many types of relationships in your life, and you play different roles in all of them. Building and maintaining healthy relationships can help you meet the need to belong and feel loved.

Key term Relationship A bond or connection you have with other people You have relationships with family members, friends, teachers, classmates, and people in the community

Relationships with family Some of the most important relationships in your life are with the family members who share your home, such as parents or guardians, brothers, and sisters.   One thing that makes family relationships special is that they last your entire life.

Relationships with Family Healthy family relationships strengthen every side of your health triangle. Physical food, clothing, and shelter Mental/ Emotional Social values and social skills love, care, and encouragement

Relationships with Friends Although you probably have many friends your own age, a friendship can form between people of any age. Friendship A significant relationship between two people that is based on trust, caring, and consideration

Relationships with Friends Good friends can have a positive influence on your self-esteem and help you resist harmful behaviors.

Relationships in Your Community Being part of a strong community has a positive impact on every aspect of your health.   It can promote healthful behaviors and also provide resources to help you when you’re in trouble.

Key Term Citizenship The way you conduct yourself as a member of the community You reinforce your ties to the community through good citizenship.

Relationships in Your Community Good citizens work to strengthen their communities by: obeying laws being friendly to neighbors helping to improve the places where they live

Roles in Relationships In the course of a single day, you may play many roles with different people. Role A part you play in your relationships

Roles in Relationships

Traits of Healthy Relationships In a healthy relationship, people respect and support each other. Healthy relationships nurture you, bring out the best in you, and encourage you to make healthful choices in your life.

Traits of Healthy Relationships Qualities of Healthy Relationships mutual respect caring honesty commitment

Traits of Healthy Relationships Mutual Respect You treat other people with respect, and they respect you in return. You accept each other’s opinions, tastes, and traditions, even if they are different. At times you may agree to disagree instead of trying to force your opinions on each other.

Traits of Healthy Relationships Caring You treat other people with kindness and consideration. During difficult times, you show empathy and support. You’re also willing to help out others.

Traits of Healthy Relationships Honesty You are honest and open with others rather than concealing your thoughts, feelings, or actions.

Traits of Healthy Relationships Commitment You contribute to the relationship and work to keep it strong, even if it means making some sacrifices. You deal with problems in a positive way and are able to overcome them.

Skills for Building Healthy Relationships The Three Cs of Healthy Relationships Communication Cooperation Compromise

Communication In relationships, people need to understand each other. It’s important to learn effective communication skills so you can express your thoughts, feelings, and expectations to others and understand theirs in return.

Cooperation Cooperation -Working together for the good of all In relationships, people need to cooperate with each other. Cooperation can strengthen your relationships. Cooperation -Working together for the good of all

Compromise Compromise Sometimes, when people in relationships want different things, they may decide to compromise. Compromise A problem-solving method in which each participant gives up something to reach a solution that satisfies everyone

Character and Relationships Demonstrating the six traits of good character can strengthen your relationships.

Character and Relationships Six Traits of Good Character Trustworthiness Respect Responsibility Caring Fairness Citizenship

After You Read Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary Identify three kinds of relationships you have in your life.

After You Read Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary Define citizenship and give an example of good citizenship.

After You Read Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary What are the three Cs of healthy relationships?

Lesson 2: Respecting yourself and others Chapter 6 Lesson 2: Respecting yourself and others

You can promote healthy relationships by showing respect for yourself and others in your life.

Respect for Yourself Self-respect will strengthen your relationships. When you respect yourself, you’re more likely to seek out relationships with people who treat you with respect.

Respect for Yourself Having self-respect is an important foundation for developing and maintaining healthy relationships. Self-respect makes you less likely to let other people talk you into taking risks that could harm your health.

The Need for Strong Values When you are clear about your values and uphold your values, other people will know what you believe in and understand what’s important to you. You also show that you respect yourself and you respect others.

Respect for Others It’s important to treat people with respect. You can strengthen your relationships with all the people in your life by treating them with the same respect you’d like them to show you.

Respect for Others With strangers and casual acquaintances, you can show respect through common courtesy. You might hold a door open for someone or say “Thank you” to the checker at the grocery store.

Respect for Others Be considerate of others’ feelings. With close friends and family members, you can show respect in more significant ways. Be considerate of others’ feelings. Listen to other people. Develop mutual trust. Be realistic in your expectations.

Respect for Others Lending your MP3 player to your brother is one way to show that you trust him.

Tolerance Sometimes people treat others with disrespect because of prejudice. Prejudice An unfair opinion or judgment of a particular group of people

Tolerance Assuming that all boys like sports is an example of a gender stereotype. Family Guy: Stereotypes https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zFeNLEnV8r4 Stereotype An exaggerated or oversimplified belief about people who belong to a certain group

Tolerance Tolerance The ability to accept others’ differences People who have tolerance value diversity and can appreciate differences in other people’s cultures, interests, and beliefs. Tolerance The ability to accept others’ differences

Disrespectful Behaviors Victims of bullying are verbally, emotionally, and sometimes physically abused. Bullying Deliberately harming or threatening other people who cannot easily defend themselves

Disrespectful Behaviors Bullies may tease their victims, spread rumors about them, try to keep them out of a group, or even physically attack them. Bullies are more likely to drop out of school and to have problems with alcohol or violence.

Disrespectful Behaviors Bullies may intimidate through verbal attacks, malicious rumors, or even physical force.

Disrespectful Behaviors Hazing is often meant to humiliate new members of a group. It can be physically or emotionally harmful. News TV High School Hazing: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m_XvMrNwSZU Hazing Making others perform certain tasks in order to join the group

After You Read Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary Identify four ways to show respect in your relationships. Listen to others, be considerate of others’ feelings, develop mutual trust, and be realistic in your expectations.

After You Read Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary What are stereotypes? Stereotypes are exaggerated or oversimplified beliefs about people who belong to a certain group.

After You Read Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary List three reasons some teens bully others. To make themselves feel superior, to feel they are part of a group, to keep from being bullied themselves

Lesson 3: Communicating Effectively Chapter 6 Lesson 3: Communicating Effectively

Effective communication is a key to building healthy relationships.

Communication Styles There are three types of communication styles. Becoming aware of your communication style will help you to understand how others perceive you.

Communication Styles Aggressive Passive Assertive Three Styles of Communication Aggressive Passive Assertive

Communication Styles Aggressive People with an aggressive communication style may not pay attention to others’ thoughts, feelings, or needs. Aggressive Being overly forceful, pushy, or hostile

Communication Styles Passive People may adopt a passive communication style because they dislike conflict and will go out of their way to avoid an argument. Passive Being unwilling or unable to express thoughts and feelings in a direct or firm manner

Communication Styles Assertive Being assertive involves standing up for your rights and beliefs while also respecting those of others. Assertive Expressing your views clearly and respectfully

Scenario Your friends want to go eat at Golden Corral, you really don’t want to go. Use each style of communication to tell your friends you don’t want to go.

Communication is a two-way street. Ways to Communicate To communicate effectively, you need to learn speaking skills, listening skills, and nonverbal communication. Communication is a two-way street.

Speaking Skills The key to good communication is to say what you mean.   It’s not reasonable to expect other people to read your mind or be able to pick up on subtle hints.

Speaking Skills “I” message One way to make sure you don’t sound disrespectful when talking about a touchy subject is to use “I” messages.  “I” message A statement that focuses on your feelings rather than on someone else’s behavior

Speaking Skills “You” Messages “I” Messages “I really don’t like to be left waiting—it makes me feel like you don’t think I’m important.” “Why can’t you ever show up on time?” “I feel like my suggestions aren’t being taken seriously.” “You never listen to anything I say.” “I’m feeling stressed because I have a big project due tomorrow. I’ll take out the trash as soon as I finish working on this.” “I said I’d take out the trash, and I will! You don’t have to nag me about it every five minutes!” “It bothers me when I get home and find all my CDs in your room.” “You’re always taking my CDs without asking.” “I feel hurt when I’m left out of a conversation.”   “You always ignore me when your other friends are around.”

Listening Skills Active listening Make sure other people’s messages get through to you by practicing active listening. Active listening Paying close attention to what someone is saying and communicating

Listening Skills Don’t interrupt. Show interest. Restate what you hear. Ask questions. Show empathy.

Nonverbal Communication Your body language affects the meaning of the messages you send. Body language Nonverbal communication through gestures, facial expressions, behaviors, and posture

Nonverbal Communication “I’m really interested in what you’re saying.” “I don’t want to talk to you.” “I’m worried.”

Offering Useful Feedback Offering constructive feedback can improve your relationships with others. The goal of constructive criticism is to bring about positive changes.

Offering Useful Feedback To offer constructive criticism: Point out a specific problem, explain why it bothers you, and suggest a solution. Use “I” messages that focus on the problem, not on the person.

Offering Useful Feedback Letting people know how their actions make you feel isn’t something you should do only when there’s a problem.   Let the people in your life know you value them and appreciate what they do for you.

After You Read Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary What are the three main styles of communication? Aggressive, passive, and assertive

After You Read Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary List three ways to show interest in what another person is saying. Sample answer: Face the speaker, make eye contact, nod or make comments at appropriate times

After You Read Reviewing Facts and Vocabulary Define the term body language and give an example. Body language is nonverbal communication through gestures, facial expressions, behaviors, and posture. Nodding to show you agree is one example.