CORE QUALITIES Rob Bakx InfoMil – Twinning Advisor Notes

CORE QUALITIES Core qualities Pitfalls Challenges Allergies

CORE QUALITIES Pitfall Core quality Allergy Challenge Too much of a good thing Pitfall Core quality Positive opposite Positive opposite Allergy Challenge Too much of a good thing

CORE QUALITIES Someone’s strong points, characteristics Always potentially present Qualities come from inside, skills from outside Identify on basis of self-knowledge Light and dark side

PITFALLS Distortion: over-developed core quality Too much of a good thing Behind distortions are core qualities

WHICH ARE YOUR CORE QUALITIES? Others say: “Don’t be such a …..” or “Don’t be so …….” Of which positive quality is this an excess Spotting core qualities easifies seeing through unpleasant behavior Separate person and behavior

CORE QUALITIES Inconsistency Flexibility - + - + Rigidity Orderliness Core quality Pitfall Too much of a good thing Inconsistency Flexibility - + Positive opposite Positive opposite - + Rigidity Orderliness Too much of a good thing Allergy Challenge

CHALLENGES (1) Positive quality diametrically opposite to the pitfall Core quality and challenge are complementary qualities Balance by ‘and-and’, not ‘either-or’

CHALLENGES (2) Conflicts, irritation, mutual tension come from own and others core qualities and pitfalls To prevent your pitfall, develop your challenge

ALLERGIES Allergic to an excess of your own challenge The more confrontation with allergy, the more chance you fall into your pitfall Allergy makes people vulnerable, not their pitfall Resembling characters respect each other, contrasting ones look down on each other Looking down makes you vulnarable, you may fall into your pitfall

WHO AM I ? Write down 2 types of behavior you are allergic for Write down 2 things that people regularly tell you not to do Which would you consider 2 of your core qualities?

MY CORE QUALITY - + - + Core quality Pitfall Allergy Challenge Too much of a good thing - + Positive opposite Positive opposite - + Too much of a good thing Allergy Challenge