Chapter 1 Building Healthy RelationSHIPS Bennett Health-8 From Teen Health Glencoe-Nevada Edition

Happiness Quiz!

Lesson 1: Practicing Communication Skills What is Communication? Involves your words, postures, gestures and facial expressions. Communication is an exchange of information through the use of words or actions. In what ways do we communicate?

Nonverbal and Verbal When you talk to someone in person (face to face) they are able to see your body language: postures, gestures, and facial expressions. What does your body language say most of the time?

Key terms to know before we go on Mixed messages: a situation in which your words say one thing but your body language say another. “I” messages: speak from your point of view to send messages. Active listening: hearing, thinking about and responding to another person’s message. Assertive communicator: states his or her position in a firm but positive way.

Key terms to know before we go on Aggressive communicator: someone that tends to be overly forceful, pushy, hostile, or otherwise attacking in approach. Passive communicator: has a tendency to give up, give, or back down without standing up for his or her needs.

Good Listening Skills Outbound: the message you’re sending Think, then speak: avoid saying the first thing that comes to your mind, plan what you’re ging to say-THINK it through. Use “I” messages: express in terms of yourself, you’ll be less likely to offend or anger others. Make clear, simple statements: be specific and accurate, stay on topic, give the same opportunity.

Outbound continued: Be honest with thoughts and feelings: say what you really think and feel, but be polite. Be respectful of others feelings. Use appropriate body language: Make eye contact. Show that you are involved to the speaker. Avoid negative gestures and be culturally sensitive. We are entitled to our feelings and other have the same right; even if we do not agree.

Inbound “Receiving” Listen Actively: hearing does not equal listening. Hearing is being aware of sound; listening is is paying attention and using your mind as well as your ears. Ask questions: it shows you’re listening and can clear up anything you do not understand. Mirror thoughts and feelings: pay attention to what is being said and repeat what is said to show you understand.

Inbound continued Use appropriate body language: even if you disagree with what the other person has to say. Make eye contact and do not turn away. Wait your turn. Avoid interrupting: let the person finish speaking-we have to breathe, don’t assume taking a breathe is the finish marl. You’ll expect the same courtesy when it is your turn.

Writing Skills Write clear simple statements. Be sure to get your thought across. Reread your words BEFORE you send a message. They cannot see you and your body language. Read it in a different tone of voice to help ensure it cannot be misconstrued. I ate grandma. OR I ate, grandma.

Body Language Videos

Lesson 2: Family Relationships Family is the basic unity of society and includes two or more people joined by blood, marriage, adoption, or a desire to support each other. Examples: Couple, nuclear family, extended family, blended family, foster family, adoptive family, joint-custody family, and single-custody family.

Families meet needs Nurture: means to fulfill physical needs, mental/emotional needs, and social needs. It is no wonder the image for nurturing is a fragile plant.

Meeting Needs Families provide food, shelter and clothing. Family members offer love, acceptance, and support. They also pass along traditions, values, and beliefs. Your greatest influence in these areas often come from family. They teach each other how to get along with each other and with people outside the family.

Roles are the part you play when you interact with other people Roles are the part you play when you interact with other people. These roles are dynamic. Each role is necessary and hopefully improves personal well- being and is the foundation of our communication skills.

Building Strong Families Support one another. Show appreciation for one another. Follow family rules. Spend quality time together. Use good communication skills. Show responsibility. Show respect.

Changes in the Family Abuse: is a pattern of mistreatment of another person. Physical Abuse: the use of physical force, such as hitting or pushing. Sexual Abuse: is the mistreatment of a child or adult involving sexual activity. Neglect: failure to provide for the basic physical and emotional needs of a dependent.

Lesson 3 Peers: people close to you in age and have a lot in common Acquaintance: someone you see occasionally or know casually Friendship: relationship with someone you know, trust, and regard with affection

What Makes a Good Friend-go to page 14 Shared values Reliability Loyalty Sympathy Caring Trust Respect

Creating and Building Friendships Be Yourself Break the Ice (use compliments) Seek shared interest Join groups/clubs Spend time together Communicate openly/honestly Help in hard times Respect differences Encourage goals Identify & fix problems

Peer Pressure The influence that your peer group has on you. What are some examples of peer pressure?

How does this work? You feel that your peer group would make the same choice (indirect peer pressure), such as purchasing a Raiders shirt (bad) because your friends have them. You are told that you need to buy a shirt if you want to be part of the group (direct peer pressure).

Positive Peer Pressure

Negative Peer Pressure It is out there, here’s how to deal with it:

H-ealthful E-thical L-egal P-arental approval

How to HELP yourself first Avoid the situation-make decisions now & plan Use an assertive response-strong & confident Focus on the issue-avoid defending your decision or arguments Walk away-try talking but some can’t be helped