Building the Family from the ground up Home Improvement Building the Family from the ground up

Home Improvement Ephesians 4:25-5:2 – “Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another. Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil. Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him labour, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth. Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. And grieve not the Holy Spirit

Home Improvement of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you. Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children; And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet smelling savor.”

Home Improvement There are basically three different components to communication: ₋ Content / Your words = 7% ₋ Tone / Your voice = 38% ₋ Nonverbal / Your actions = 55%

Home Improvement I. Eliminate some Problems ₋ v.25 – “Wherefore put away lying” Ephesians 4:15 – “But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into Him in all things, which is the head, even Christ.”

Home Improvement I. Eliminate some Problems ₋ v.29 – “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth.” • This can refer to foul language or distasteful words • Replace them with words of kindness and edification

Home Improvement I. Eliminate some Problems ₋ v.31 – “Let all bitterness be put away” • Avoid Wrath • Avoid Anger • Avoid “Clamor” • Avoid “Evil Speaking” Colossians 4:6 – “Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.”

Home Improvement II. Integrate some Principles ₋ v.29 – "but that which is good to the use of edifying that it may minister grace unto the hearers." 1. Learn to attack the problem, not the person Ephesians 6:4 – "And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”

Home Improvement II. Integrate some Principles ₋ v.29 – "but that which is good to the use of edifying that it may minister grace unto the hearers." 1. Learn to attack the problem, not the person 2. Learn to fix the problem and not to blame others James 1:19 – "Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath." • "Swift to hear" – Means be a good listener

Home Improvement II. Integrate some Principles ₋ v.29 – "but that which is good to the use of edifying that it may minister grace unto the hearers." 1. Learn to attack the problem, not the person 2. Learn to fix the problem and not to blame others 3. Learn to keep it private, not public 4. Learn that when you bring it up, pray it up

Home Improvement III. Appropriate some Promises ₋ v.30 – "And grieve not the Holy Spirit" • We have the presence of the Holy Spirit in our families

Home Improvement III. Appropriate some Promises ₋ v.32 – "Even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you" • What will the power of God do in our families? o Help us to forgive o Help us to create unity o Help us to love o Brings to our homes

Home Improvement III. Appropriate some Promises ₋ 5:2 – "Walk in love as Christ has loved us and has given Himself for us" John 14:27 – "Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you."

Home Improvement I Corinthians 10:31 – "Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God." Colossians 3:17 – "And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord."