Building the Family from the ground up Home Improvement Building the Family from the ground up

Home Improvement Ephesians 6:1-4 – “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honor thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”

James 1:5 – “If any of you lack wisdom let him ask of God.” Home Improvement James 1:5 – “If any of you lack wisdom let him ask of God.”

Home Improvement I. There is a Message for the Learners – vs.1-3 A. There is a Clear Word 1. He speaks about your actions o “Obey” – v.1 – To submit, to comply, to heed, to follow directions o This means that a child is to listen attentively to their parents o They are to respond with submission to what they hear

Home Improvement I. There is a Message for the Learners – vs.1-3 A. There is a Clear Word 1. He speaks about your actions 2. He speaks about your attitudes o “Honor” – To respect, to revere, to hold in high regard, to fix in value o This speaks of a child’s attitude toward his parents I Kings 2:1-4 – “Now the days of David drew nigh that he should die, and he charged Solomon his son, saying, I go the way of all the earth, be thou strong therefore, and show thyself a man, and keep the charge of the…

Home Improvement I. There is a Message for the Learners – vs.1-3 A. There is a Clear Word 1. He speaks about your actions 2. He speaks about your attitudes o “Honor” – To respect, to revere, to hold in high regard, to fix in value o This speaks of a child’s attitude toward his parents I Kings 2:1-4 – “… Lord thy God, to walk in His ways, to keep His statutes, and His commandments, and His judgments, and His testimonies, as it is written in the law of Moses, that thou mayest prosper in all that thou…

Home Improvement I. There is a Message for the Learners – vs.1-3 A. There is a Clear Word 1. He speaks about your actions 2. He speaks about your attitudes o “Honor” – To respect, to revere, to hold in high regard, to fix in value o This speaks of a child’s attitude toward his parents I Kings 2:1-4 – “… doest, and whithersoever thou turnest thyself. That the Lord may continue His word which He spake concerning me.”

Home Improvement I. There is a Message for the Learners – vs.1-3 A. There is a Clear Word B. There is a Conditional Word – v.1 • When a parent’s commands contradict the teachings of Scripture, the child should put the Lord first

Home Improvement I. There is a Message for the Learners – vs.1-3 A. There is a Clear Word B. There is a Conditional Word – v.1 C. There is a Clarifying Word – vs.2,3 • God always blesses those who honor and obey Him

Home Improvement I. There is a Message for the Learners – vs.1-3 A. There is a Clear Word B. There is a Conditional Word – v.1 C. There is a Clarifying Word – vs.2,3 D. There is a Challenging Word – v.1 • “Right” – Speaks of righteousness • When we honor and obey our parents, we are pleasing God

How Do We Provoke Our Children? Home Improvement II. There is a Word for the Leaders – v.4 A. There is a Cautioning Word – v.4 How Do We Provoke Our Children? 1. Speaking to your children in a harsh, degrading, or disrespectful way Proverbs 15:1 – “A soft answer turneth away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger.”

How Do We Provoke Our Children? Home Improvement II. There is a Word for the Leaders – v.4 A. There is a Cautioning Word – v.4 How Do We Provoke Our Children? 1. Speaking to your children in a harsh, degrading, or disrespectful way Ephesians 4:31 – “Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice.”

How Do We Provoke Our Children? Home Improvement II. There is a Word for the Leaders – v.4 A. There is a Cautioning Word – v.4 How Do We Provoke Our Children? 1. Speaking to your children in a harsh, degrading, or disrespectful way Colossians 4:6 – “Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.”

How Do We Provoke Our Children? Home Improvement II. There is a Word for the Leaders – v.4 A. There is a Cautioning Word – v.4 How Do We Provoke Our Children? 2. Refusing to listen to your children James 1:19 – “Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.”

How Do We Provoke Our Children? Home Improvement II. There is a Word for the Leaders – v.4 A. There is a Cautioning Word – v.4 How Do We Provoke Our Children? 3. Inconsistent discipline o Give them clear limits and boundaries, then be consistent

How Do We Provoke Our Children? Home Improvement II. There is a Word for the Leaders – v.4 A. There is a Cautioning Word – v.4 How Do We Provoke Our Children? 4. Over-discipline o "Don't take extreme measures for minor infractions."

How Do We Provoke Our Children? Home Improvement II. There is a Word for the Leaders – v.4 A. There is a Cautioning Word – v.4 How Do We Provoke Our Children? 5. Lack of discipline Proverbs 13:24 – "He that spareth his rod hateth his son, but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes."

How Do We Provoke Our Children? Home Improvement II. There is a Word for the Leaders – v.4 A. There is a Cautioning Word – v.4 How Do We Provoke Our Children? 5. Lack of discipline Proverbs 22:15 – "Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him."

How Do We Provoke Our Children? Home Improvement II. There is a Word for the Leaders – v.4 A. There is a Cautioning Word – v.4 How Do We Provoke Our Children? 5. Lack of discipline Proverbs 29:15 – "The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame."

How Do We Provoke Our Children? Home Improvement II. There is a Word for the Leaders – v.4 A. There is a Cautioning Word – v.4 How Do We Provoke Our Children? 5. Lack of discipline o Discipline is what you do for a child, not what you do to a child

How Do We Provoke Our Children? Home Improvement II. There is a Word for the Leaders – v.4 A. There is a Cautioning Word – v.4 How Do We Provoke Our Children? 6. Constant fault-finding and punishment without praise and reward o Reward and praise are equally important

How Do We Provoke Our Children? Home Improvement II. There is a Word for the Leaders – v.4 A. There is a Cautioning Word – v.4 How Do We Provoke Our Children? 7. Physical and emotional abuse Proverbs 23:13 – "Withhold not correction from a child, for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die."

How Do We Provoke Our Children? Home Improvement II. There is a Word for the Leaders – v.4 A. There is a Cautioning Word – v.4 How Do We Provoke Our Children? 7. Physical and emotional abuse o The Hebrew word for "beat" means – "Lightly strike" o Discipline should always be motivated by love o God disciplines you in love

How Do We Provoke Our Children? Home Improvement II. There is a Word for the Leaders – v.4 A. There is a Cautioning Word – v.4 How Do We Provoke Our Children? 8. Refusing to humble yourself and ask your child’s forgiveness o Humble yourself and ask their forgiveness

Home Improvement II. There is a Word for the Leaders – v.4 A. There is a Cautioning Word – v.4 B. There is a Counseling Word 1. Parents are to Enrich Their Children o We are to help them reach their fullest potential o Time is the greatest investment you can give a child

Home Improvement II. There is a Word for the Leaders – v.4 A. There is a Cautioning Word – v.4 B. There is a Counseling Word 1. Parents are to Enrich Their Children 2. Parents are to Educate Their Children o Ways of the Lord o Ways of life

Home Improvement II. There is a Word for the Leaders – v.4 A. There is a Cautioning Word – v.4 B. There is a Counseling Word 1. Parents are to Enrich Their Children 2. Parents are to Educate Their Children 3. Parents are to Encourage Their Children o It refers to the act of guiding children toward maturity

Home Improvement II. There is a Word for the Leaders – v.4 A. There is a Cautioning Word – v.4 B. There is a Counseling Word 1. Parents are to Enrich Their Children 2. Parents are to Educate Their Children 3. Parents are to Encourage Their Children 4. Parents are to Evangelize Their Children o We are to train them in God's Word o Not our opinions, preferences, or prejudices