Discipline

Discipline for toddlers is very difficult You must set boundaries from the beginning and keep them the same Give them warnings before actually disciplining them so they understand what they are doing is wrong

MISBEHAVING Some of the more common ways they MISBEHAVE include: getting into areas/situations they aren’t supposed to not listening • fights with friends or siblings negative attempts to gain parents/ supervisors attention

Try not to pay too much attention to negative behavior because it can encourage your child to think that is the way to get your attention. Ignore temper tantrums and crying

General Discipline Guidelines Set rules. Be specific and consistent. Avoid overwhelming your child by making too many rules. Offer choices when possible. Give lots of attention for good behavior. Avoid calling your child names like “bad boy” when he misbehaves. When you discipline your child, remain calm. NEVER yell, hit or scream at your child.

Praise Effective discipline also rewards your child for good behavior. Verbal rewards are easiest and best to let your child know you recognize her positive behavior. Be specific in your praise. Don’t just say, “You were a good girl today.” Make sure your behavioral expectations are appropriate for the developmental age of your child.

TIME-OUTS A Time-out is probably the most effective discipline. You must remain consistent and calm. Be repetitive, even if you are tired or busy. It’s also important for anyone who spends time with the child, to remain consistent with limits. How To Give A Time-Out Isolating the child briefly from other children and activities. Use age as a guideline – three minutes for 3-year-olds and four minutes for 4-year-olds. Designate a spot that is close enough to see, but is not an interesting place for your child to be Tell him what he has done wrong and send him to time-out. Time-out should start when your child is sitting quietly in his spot http://video.google.com/videosearch?q=supernanny+full+episodes&www_google_domain=www.google.com&emb=0&aq=0&oq=super+nanny+full+epi#

Types of Maltreatment Physical Abuse: Intentionally causing an injury to a child. This includes hitting, burning, shaking, or otherwise harming a child. Parents abused in childhood were significantly more likely to abuse their children

Physical Abuse Signs and Symptoms May have bruises, broken bones, or burn marks that cannot be explained. NOT all physical abuse leaves visible marks! Some abusers intentionally leave no marks when they hurt children.

Types of Maltreatment Neglect: Both Physical AND Emotional neglect are possible. Neglect means failing to provide for a child’s basic needs, whether they be food, water, a place to live, or love and attention

Signs and Symptoms of Physical Neglect Neglected children are often absent from school, steal food or money, have poor personal hygiene, and lack protective clothing for wet or cold weather.

Types of Maltreatment Sexual Abuse: Any inappropriate sexual behavior with a child, including touching or taking photographs. Child sexual abuse victims are ten times more likely to attempt suicide

Physical signs of Sexual Abuse *Physical trauma such as redness, rashes, and/or bleeding to oral, genital and/or anal areas *Bruises on breasts, buttocks, lower abdomen, thighs, genital and/or rectal areas *Complaints of pain or itching in genital or anal areas *Difficulty walking or sitting *Unusual or offensive body odors *Difficulty in bladder or bowel control *Constipation *Pain or discomfort on urination *Blood in urine *Sexually transmitted diseases found vaginally, rectally or orally *Yeast or bacterial infections

Types of Maltreatment Emotional and Verbal Abuse: Rejecting children, blaming them, or constantly scolding them

Emotional Abuse Signs: Boys »  aggression »  temper tantrums »  fights with peers and siblings »  bullying tactics »  frustrates easily »  disobedience »  lying and cheating »  destructive behaviors »  impulsive behaviors »  argumentative »  loud »  tease excessively »  worry excessively »  withdrawn Girls »  withdrawn »  passive »  approval-seeking »  compliant »  frustrates easily »  infinite patience »  clinging to adults »  overly dependent »  stubborn »  tease excessively »  worry excessively

FACTS Death is the most tragic consequence. More than 1,000 children die in the U.S. each year because of abuse or neglect. Neglected children may fail to develop mentally or physically at the same rate as their peers.

FACTS All abused children suffer emotionally. They often feel lonely, unloved, guilty for no reason, and unworthy of care and attention. This can cause relationship problems in the future.

Who Abuses Children? Statistics say MOTHERS abuse children MORE than FATHERS do. In sexual abuse cases, it is most often another relative or a family friend who harms the child, NOT the parent. People who abuse children often have difficulty controlling their impulses and likely were abused themselves

Why Does Abuse Occur? Children are NEVER responsible for the abuse or harm that others inflict on them. Younger children are neglected more often. Sexual abuse most often occurs before age seven. Girls are more often victims of sexual abuse Immature mothers are more likely to abuse

Substance Abuse Studies show that a large percent of child maltreatment cases involve substance abuse. Addiction counselors are trained therapists to help substance abusers.

TRUE OR FALSE When a teacher or school employee sees identifying marks of abuse on a student, they must contact the proper authorities and report the abuse or suspicion of abuse.

What Can Be done? When an agency hears of possible child abuse, it sends someone to investigate. Children can be put in foster care Parental rights could be terminated Parents could go to prison

Treatment for Abused Children Usually go through counseling sessions Encourage healthy friendships Help them have realistic expectations Provide safe place to express anger, and sadness Improving family communication Protecting children from further harm.