Coaching Your Children to Success: Building Emotional Intelligence Nova Integrative Therapy Center ~ Dr. Suzanne Nixon ~ All Rights Reserved 2016

Parents Most significant influencers in children’s lives Parent’s behavior significantly influences the way a child learns Modeling EQ is a significant factor in children developing EQ Nova Integrative Therapy Center ~ Dr. Suzanne Nixon ~ All Rights Reserved 2016

Parents Coaching Their Kids in EQ Stay Mindful of the Intent So when obstacles arise you keep on task Enhance positive self-esteem Develop positive friendships & relationships Integrate mind-body intelligence Enhance personal health Develop leadership skills Optimize long-term happiness & success Nova Integrative Therapy Center ~ Dr. Suzanne Nixon ~ All Rights Reserved 2016

Two Forms of Coaching Formal Coaching Informal Coaching Nova Integrative Therapy Center ~ Dr. Suzanne Nixon ~ All Rights Reserved 2016

Formal Coaching Structured Set planned time Defined duration Targeted topic Specific activities Nova Integrative Therapy Center ~ Dr. Suzanne Nixon ~ All Rights Reserved 2016

Coaching Skills Presence Active Listening Understanding Patience ~ Coaching EQ 4 Areas of Focus: Non-judgement Self-awareness Accepting Motivational ~ Feelings ~ Cognition Behavior ~ Social Nova Integrative Therapy Center ~ Dr. Suzanne Nixon ~ All Rights Reserved 2016

Formal coaching for EQ Target Activity Feelings Identify Feelings Body Awareness Intensity Scale All Feelings Welcomed ~ Use Visuals Nova Integrative Therapy Center ~ Dr. Suzanne Nixon ~ All Rights Reserved 2016

Formal Coahing for EQ Identify a vocabulary of feelings & triggers for feelings. Apply to personal and ficticous situations past & present. Nova Integrative Therapy Center ~ Dr. Suzanne Nixon ~ All Rights Reserved 2016

Formal coaching for eq Target Activity Cognition Mindset Thoughts Messages Conversations Develop Self-Awareness of the Inner Dialogue ~ Emphasize Positive Accomplishments Affirmations Nova Integrative Therapy Center ~ Dr. Suzanne Nixon ~ All Rights Reserved 2016

Activity: Building on the Positive A Personal Descriptive Vision Board Formal coaching for eq Activity: Building on the Positive A Personal Descriptive Vision Board Nova Integrative Therapy Center ~ Dr. Suzanne Nixon ~ All Rights Reserved 2016

Behaviors & Social Cues Increase Awareness of Self & Others Formal coaching for EQ Target Activity Behaviors & Social Cues Teach-Coach Non-verbal Verbal Actions Non-Verbal Increase Awareness of Self & Others Facial Expressions Eye Movements Body Posture Gestures Nova Integrative Therapy Center ~ Dr. Suzanne Nixon ~ All Rights Reserved 2016

Ways to Deal, Cope, Channel Emotions Identify & Assess Emotions Target Activity Actions Emotional Regulation Ways to Deal, Cope, Channel Emotions & Stress ~ Where Am I Today? Identify & Assess Emotions Nova Integrative Therapy Center ~ Dr. Suzanne Nixon ~ All Rights Reserved 2016

Channeling Emotions Physical Movement ~ Meditation Nova Integrative Therapy Center ~ Dr. Suzanne Nixon ~ All Right Reserved 2016

Role Playing Scenerios Formal coaching for EQ Target Activity Verbal Behaviors in Social Situations Communicate Clearly Honestly Respectfully Appropriate Tone Listen Well Take Turns Talking Role Playing Scenerios Nova Integrative Therapy Center ~ Dr. Suzanne Nixon ~ All Rights Reserved 2016

Practicing Communication EQ Family Listening Eye Contact, Body Posture, Focus Nova Integrative Therapy Center ~ Dr. Suzanne Nixon ~ All Rights Reserved 2016

Informal Coaching Spontaneous In the moment Situational Targeting a specific emotion-behavior Nova Integrative Therapy Center ~ Dr. Suzanne Nixon ~ All Rights Reserved 2016

Parents Prepared to Coach A Situation Presents Have a Template for Engaging First: Pause before reacting - Breath What is happening? Behavior Emotion & intensity The situation-where are you? Immediate intervention needed? Follow through later with review & coaching Nova Integrative Therapy Center ~ Dr. Suzanne Nixon ~ All Rights Reserved 2016

Coaching in a Spontaneous Situation Review Afterwards Parent-Coach Review your emotional response – how was I feeing? -did I manage my emotions? Review your verbal response – What did I say? – did I listen? - did I acknowledge feelings? Review your behavior response - did I manage my behavior - did I have right action Nova Integrative Therapy Center ~ Dr. Suzanne Nixon ~ All Rights Reserved 2016

Remain Mindful of the Intent Nova Integrative Therapy Center ~ Dr. Suzanne Nixon ~ All Rights Reserved 2016