BUILDING THE HOME A Series of Lessons

BUILDING THE HOME Consult the Architect Bricks for Wives Bricks for Husbands Termites in your Troth Cracks in the Mortar Imitation Bricks - Husbands

1 PETER 3:7-9 7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered. 8 Finally, all of you be of one mind, having compassion for one another; love as brothers, be tenderhearted, be courteous; 9 not returning evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary blessing, knowing that you were called to this, that you may inherit a blessing.

INTRODUCTION Previous lessons – Bricks for Husbands / Wives Today – Imitation Bricks for Husbands / Wives These lessons are a warning. In building your home – don't accept or use cheap substitutes Menu in a restaurant - “No Substitutes”

Provide a Living / Share a Life 1 Timothy 5:8 But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. MEN – She did not marry your paycheck Husband at wife's grave - “I gave her everything except myself.”

Provide a Living / Share a Life Some Suggestions – Give Her: Time Attention Dates Understanding Time Off

Demand / Manage Many have a “macho” image of manhood I rule the roost. Man is the head of the house. Boss at work – shout, bully, command, threaten, hot-shot, bark orders Boss at home – manager, understanding partner The rise in domestic violence, battered wives, and abused children – a matter of self-control.

Demand / Manage The husband's job is to manage his family. That is the best translation of the word “proistemi”. The idea is “to preside over.” The picture is of one who has control but does not do everything by himself. As the elder is to a manager of a congregation, so the husband is to be a manager of his home. A good manager knows how to develop, and use the gifts of others. That is what a manager is and that is what a husband is to be. Jay Adams, Christian Living in the Home, p. 76-77

Smothering / Honoring Honor? YES Honor Smother? NO Smother Appreciate Allow room, give space Seek advice and help Smother? NO Smother Place on shelf, Worship, adore, protect She is not an untouchable china doll

Add to the list 1 Peter 3:8-9 8 Finally, all of you be of one mind, having compassion for one another; love as brothers, be tenderhearted, be courteous; 9 not returning evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary blessing, knowing that you were called to this, that you may inherit a blessing. Hypocrisy / Harmony Self-centered / Compassionate Enemy / Love Pride / Humble Curt / Courteous Vengeance / Forgive Fuss / Be a blessing

CONCLUSION Ecstasy can become agony. Stop being phony, imitation Be the “real” man of the house.