UNDERSTANDING MYSELF BETTER LESSON 2 UNDERSTANDING MYSELF BETTER

Temperament, similar to personality, is different from person to person and tends to be stable over time.

Person’s overall emotional state, reactivity & intensity Temperament: Person’s overall emotional state, reactivity & intensity

TEMPERAMENT Your way of reacting to the world & others Viewed as a set of identifiable traits based on the Big 5 personality traits (extroversion, introversion, emotional stability, agreeableness, conscientiousness from Lesson 1)

What’s MY temperament? Primary COLORS Rank personal characteristics Find out with a Personality Inventory Primary COLORS Rank personal characteristics Rank by row Score Score by column Review Strengths & Pitfalls Relate to current relationships

Follow Up Questions: Write the Qs in your notebook, then give a reflective response using well written sentences. 1. Do you feel the Primary COLORS tool accurately reflects your temperament and personality?__________ Why or Why not? 2. Describe and give examples of the traits you feel were accurate descriptions of your temperament and/or personality.

Follow Up Questions: Write the Qs in your notebook, then give a reflective response using well written sentences. What temperament and/or personality traits would complement your own? Explain why or how. How can understanding your own temperament and personality traits enhance your relationships with others?

Follow Up Questions: Write the Qs in your notebook, then give a reflective response using well written sentences. What weaknesses might you have to be aware of in order to have a strong relationship with another person?

Later in this course, you’ll be asked to determine what attracts you to another person. Do opposites attract?

Yes. People often admire or are drawn to strengths in others they don’t possess themselves.

BUT, That’s the difficulty of working out compatibility in relationships:

People with opposite traits have more disagreements and don’t understand each other as well.

Similarities in traits bring STRENGTH to relationships

3 SIDES OF SELF: 1) How you REALLY ARE 2) How you SEE YOURSELF 3) How OTHERS SEE YOU

More overlap between 3 sides equals better self-esteem less emotional conflict, more stable personality How you really are How you see yourself How others see you