Accentuate the Positive Eliminate the Negative

Opening Thoughts Tell about short membership in the BPW and how the opening prayer comes to mind when I hear ab out a unit in troupbe.Read the BPW opening prayer here

Kind Words Never Die

If things Didn’t Change, It would always be Yesterday! Hard to argue with this thought

10 Positive traits to cultivate 1. Be tolerant of others Learn to be tolerant All people are different,, You may not know why they act the wary they do, but you can learn to tolerate their behaviors

2. Avoid expecting people to be perfect NO ONE IS PERFECT. To quote A Billy Joel song = we are supposed to make mistakes. BUT to quote another source, if you eraser wears out before the pencil does, you are overdoing the no one is perfect

3. Be sure you WANT to understand people Explore why you want to know and understand the om the other person, perhaps it si just to satisfy assume negative thoughts of your own, such as anger, jealousy.

4. Look for the good in others This is had as it is far easier to look for the negative traits in another person rather than the good;.

5. Learn to love the unlovable It is difficult to understand much less like and understand the rude, sarcastic person they are also can be arrogant, surly and self-centered.

6. Hate the thing, not the person

7. Get all of the facts Before yoi condemn someone one you need to know ll the facts as there is usually 3 sides sto an story, her side , her side, and the trruth.

8. Have empathy Understand their feelings or better yet walk a mile in their shoes.

9. Control your attitudes It is your reaction to the other person's actions or w words that that and you will automatically control t your feelings..

10. Develop a mental image of understanding

Ten ways to make people to feel important Ask his or her advice 2. Remember his or her name and use it frequently

3. Discuss subjects, but never argue about them 4 3. Discuss subjects, but never argue about them 4. Sincerely compliment him or her

5. Be more willing to listen that to talk 6 5. Be more willing to listen that to talk 6. Direct the conversations to his or her accomplishments and his or her interests rather than your own

7. Keep them well-informed on all matters which may concern them.

8. Give them opportunities to do things they usually aren’t privileged to do. Give them a chance to perform unusually well so they will look good in the eyes of others.

9. Show respect for his or her knowledge and wisdom by repeating a remark of his or hers.

10. Treat them with courtesy, dignity, and respect 11 10. Treat them with courtesy, dignity, and respect 11. Give credit where credit is due.

The 20 bad habits you need to eliminate

1.Winning too much: The need to win at all costs and in all situations – when it matters, when it doesn’t, and when it is totally beside the point. 2. Adding too much value: The overwhelming desire to add our 2 cents to every discussion.

3. Passing judgment: The need to rate others and impose our standards on them.

4. Making destructive comments: The needless sarcasm and cutting remarks that we think makes appear witty and wise

5. Starting with NO, BUT, HOWEVER: The overuse of these negative qualifiers which secretly say to everyone that I’m right and you’re wrong.

6. Telling the world how smart we are: The need to show people we’re smarter than they think we are.

7.Speaking when angry: Using emotional volatility as a management tool. 8.Negativity, or “Let me explain why that won’t work”: The need to share our negative thoughts even when we weren’t asked.

9. Withholding information: The refusal to share information in order to maintain an advantage over others. 10.Failing to give proper recognition: The inability to give praise and reward.

11. Claiming credit that that we don’t deserve: The most annoying way to overestimate our contributions to any success.

12. Making excuses: The need to reposition our annoying behavior as a permanent fixture so people excuse us for it.

13. Clinging to the past: The need to deflect blame away from ourselves and onto events and people from our past; a subset of blaming everyone else.

14. Playing favorites: Failing to see that we are treating someone unfairly. 15. Refusing to express regret: The inability to take responsibility for our actions, admit we’re wrong, or recognize how our actions affect others.

16. Not listening: The most passive-aggressive form of disrespect for colleagues. 17. Failing to express gratitude: The most basic form of bad manners.

18. Punishing the messenger: The misguided need to attack the innocent who are usually only trying to help us. 19. Passing the buck: The need to blame everyone but ourselves

20. An excessive need to be “me”: Exalting our faults as virtues simply because they’re who we are.

21. Goal Obsession – this is the worst habit of all, it occurs when we get so wrapped up in achieving our goal that we often achieve the goal at the expense of a larger mission.