Mentoring Scenarios

Oooo, I want that video game! Scenario #1 How am I going to tell him I can’t afford this??? Oooo, I want that video game! $50 Josh and Ricky

Tips for handling money situations Set a weekly budget beforehand Don’t be afraid to say no Find a balance of activities Some that cost money, others that do not Keep the child’s economic background in perspective

Dad came home angry again and hit me. Scenario #2 Dad came home angry again and hit me. Who should I tell about this? Jordan and Will

Confidentiality Issues Everything you discuss with a little buddy is confidential Except for cases of: Physical abuse Sexual abuse Emotional abuse If you suspect a problem……. Alert someone at the Campus Y immediately!

Scenario #3 I think I’m really getting through to How come I him. got the girl?

Female to Male Mentoring Tips If possible, avoid this problem altogether by not mentioning it If it cannot be avoided, be aware of his view on the issue Don’t be afraid of playing sports Show him your unique abilities

I hear that this program was for babies. I’m too old for this stuff. What do I say to that? I hear that this program was for babies. I’m too old for this stuff. Kyle and Sean Scenario #4

Adolescent Issues Too cool to be in the big buddy program Dating Show your buddy the benefits of the program Dating Make sure your buddy knows what is appropriate and inappropriate behavior Alcohol and drug abuse Get to the problem before it gets out of hand

I had some of my dad’s beer last weekend. Scenario #5 What should I do about this? I had some of my dad’s beer last weekend. Steve and Brian

Alcohol Issues Don’t be afraid to ask Set a good example Encourage participation in supervised activities Alert someone immediately if you think there is a problem

LANGUAGE BARRIER Scenario #6 Hi, nice to meet you. I’m here to pick up your son. I’m Jason, his Big Buddy. ¿Qué dijo él? ¿Qué es Big Buddy? Scenario #6

Working through this Speak in the family’s native language if possible Listen patiently to the parents Use a translator if necessary Meet with your Little Buddy at their home until the parents feel comfortable with your going somewhere else Give the parents a written translation of the purpose and activities of the Big Buddy program

TEAM BUILDING ACTIVITIES So now what happens? Wow this is awkward. Scenario #7 Peter and Jorge

Suggestions Participate in the optional group activities with other Big and Little Buddies Arrange this on a smaller scale with others in the program to participate in activities such as Volleyball Bowling Picnics Basketball Trips to the park Board games

Little Buddies who date Wow, sometimes I just don’t know what to do with my girlfriend. She stopped bringing me lunch. What kind of a girl is that?? How old are you??? Juan Scenario #8 Julia

Don’t panic! Discuss how to handle relationship issues Emphasize what healthy dating relationships should be like Teach your Little Buddy respect for members of the opposite sex Mention sex issues only if your Little Buddy asks or you think they may be at risk Notify the Campus Y if real complications arise