Proactive vs. Reactive

Proactive vs. Reactive Proactive – making choices based on values Thinking before they act Reactive – making choices based on impulse Name calling, explosion

Scenarios 1. After having a late start due to weather, you forget that you have a test that day. You did not study as much as you would like and the teacher will NOT move the test back a day. What are some reactive responses? What are some proactive responses?

Scenario Your sibling is getting a new car. You feel hurt by this because you feel you deserve the new car because your grades are better. Reactive responses: Proactive responses:

Characteristics Reactive People: Proactive People: Easily offended Blame others Get angry and say things they regret Very impulsive Proactive People: Not easily offended Take responsibility Think before they act Bounce back Make it happen Focus on what they can do, not do

Circle of Control

How to be Proactive Turning Setbacks into Triumphs Its how you respond to what life hands you Turning lemons into lemonade Rising above the abuse Becoming a Change Agent Be a role model Break the cycle

Proactive Growing Your Proactive Muscles Can-Do Just Push Pause 5 Short Chapters Can-Do Take initiative to make it happen Think about solutions and options Act Just Push Pause