November 14, 2017 Entry Task: Target: What qualities do you want in a good date (person you are dating)? Target: Identify the differences between boys and girls when it comes to dating.

Tip of the Day

Dating, Relationships and Marriage Ground rules? What should they include?

Proper Dating Be respectful Might be uncomfortable for people Let me know ahead of time if you need to leave for any reason

Brainstorm: Why do people date? List 5-10 reasons why people date You have two minutes

Differences – He said she said Danny Sandy “Horny” details Romantic Crazy for me Cute as can be Did you get very far? Does he have a car? Saved her life, she nearly drown Showed off, splashing around Made out under the dock Stayed up until 10:00 o’clock Friendly down in the sand Friendly holding my hand She was good if you know what I mean Sweet just to the Tee Does she have a friend? How much dough did he spend

Tip of the Day!

Brainstorm: Compare dating over the generations. …

Has Dating Changed? How? Explain How dating has changed over the generations You have two minutes

How has dating changed Now with your seat partner, share your responses and add any reasons people date that you didn’t have you’re your sheet. Share out

Differences 1. Guys always asked the girls out. 2. Sex is more common in relationships. 3. Age differences. 4. Cheating has become more common 5. Online dating 6. Meet the girls somewhere. Don’t meet at house 7. Children? Any more?

Why do people date? Dating purposes & types of love

AGENDA… The Purposes of Dating Types of Love Ladder of Love Love or Infatuation?

The Purposes of Dating

Socialization: To develop appropriate social skills To practice getting along with others in different settings

Recreation: To have fun and enjoy the companionship of others To try new and different activities

Mate Selection: To see others in many different settings To compare the personality and characteristics of many people To determine if you could live…for the rest of your life with this person

Types of Love Romantic Love Sexual Love Pragmatic Love Platonic Love Puppy Love Sexual Love The intimate expression of love. Pragmatic Love A rational, reasoning kind of love. Platonic Love The spiritual and intellectual relationship between a man and a woman. Companionship Love A love typically found in good friendships. Altruistic Love Selfless love or concern for the spouse. Manic Love A crazy, possessive, jealous kind of love. Self-Love An egotistic, narcissistic kind of love. In an ideal marital relationship, you would experience all types of love, everyday. However, until you are married, you can still experience most types of love with a variety of people.

The Ladder of Love

Ladder of Love STARTS AT BOTTOM (Self Love) Mature love for others Love for children Love for the same/opposite sex Love for someone the same sex, older Love for same sex friend First love outside the family Love of other relatives Love for secondary caregiver Love for primary caregiver Self-love Love for humankind, very unselfish love. Unselfish love with ability to love without expecting anything in return. Begins with interest in the other/same sex and continues throughout life. Role model and exemplified what you wanted to become. Close friend of the same age and sex. You had fun with this person and loved him for the times shared. Love of a relative which brought a special sense of security. This person met your needs and cared for you. Usually your father. Your primary caregiver (usually mother). Until you love yourself, you cannot truly love another.

Love vs. Infatuation Grows slowly Long lasting Trust More realistic More thoughtful Happens quickly Short-lived Physical thrills Jealousy Rush to marry

LOVE INFATUATION Love grows over time Known under many circumstances Learn all characteristics of the person Other person centered Happens suddenly Under one circumstance Know only a few character traits Self centered

LOVE INFATUATION Only for one person Face problems and try to solve them Physical attraction is a small part Endures Can wait for marriage More than one person Problems are glossed over May be based only on physical attraction Doesn’t want to wait for anything May end suddenly Seen as deprivation