Welcome Back Our END IN MIND for Tonight Review Week 1 Habit 3 – Put First Things First Private Victory Habit 7 – Sharpen the Saw

WHY YOUR HABITS MATTER YOU are the core! ME – WE – US! 1 Foundation

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know, it’s ME!

Ready, Set, Recall Maturity Continuum (Me/We/Us) Paradigms (See – Do – Get) Circle of Influence/Circle of Concern Key Roles – Tribute Statements Personal Mission Statement Head/Heart/Feet ACTION Step

See Do Get Paradigms – Video – 3:48 Paradigm Behavior Result 7 Foundation

Quick List Step 1 Write down 5-6 things you do with your time Save this card for later…

Habit 3 You can’t build a reputation on what you’re going to do. Put First Things First You can’t build a reputation on what you’re going to do. - Henry Ford 61

Don’t waste your breath proclaiming what’s really important to you Don’t waste your breath proclaiming what’s really important to you. How you spend your time says it all. -Eric Zorn

Prep for H2 Writing & Living Mission Statement End In Mind for H3 Time Matrix Big Rocks Time management Prep for H2 Writing & Living Mission Statement

Habit 3: Put First Things First – p. 62

Ineffective: I put urgent things first. Driven by crises, pressure Habit 3—Paradigms Ineffective: I put urgent things first. Driven by crises, pressure Effective: I put important things first. Driven by priorities and importance 3 63 Habit Put First Things First

Effectiveness requires the integrity to act on your priorities. Paradigm Priorities and importance drive Habit of Integrity & Execution Effectiveness requires the integrity to act on your priorities. Organization Productivity Follow through “Get things done” Reputation Focus and plan Rid unimportance Result Behavior 3 63 Habit Put First Things First

Purpose (p. 64) BIG IDEA: Where you are headed is way more important than how fast you are going

Video The Time Matrix 3:57 3 65 Habit Put First Things First

I NECESSITY II EFFECTIVENESS IV WASTE AND EXCESS III DECEPTION The Time Matrix p. 65 I NECESSITY II EFFECTIVENESS IV WASTE AND EXCESS III DECEPTION 3 65 Habit Put First Things First

Live North of the Line 3 66 Crises Pressing problems Deadline-driven projects, meetings, reports Preparation Prevention Planning Relationship building Re-creation Values clarification Live North of the Line Needless interruptions Unnecessary reports Unimportant meetings, phone calls, mail, e-mail Other people’s minor issues Trivia, busywork Irrelevant phone calls, mail, e-mail Time-wasters “Escape” activities Excessive TV, Internet, relaxation 3 66 Habit Put First Things First

What percentage of their time do workers spend “below the line”? xQ Tells You… What percentage of their time do workers spend “below the line”? 40% 3 66 Habit Put First Things First

Time Matrix At your table (# off 1-4) a) Review your quadrant Use p. 65, 66 & handout a) Review your quadrant b) ID Activities c) ID Feelings d) ID long-term impact e) ID Insights What can you do to “live N of the line”? a.k.a. Eliminate the Unimportant

And a reminder to the “people pleasers…”

Building QII Capacity

BIG ROCKS VIDEO 4:01 Big Rocks 3 66 Habit Put First Things First

Reminder: Big Rocks Come from: Can be: Conscience Mission Goals Key projects p. 69 Can be: Tasks Appointments Areas of focus Relationships

Quick List Which quadrants do your activities fall into? Step 2 Which quadrants do your activities fall into? Are the activities you noted “BIG ROCKS”?

When? Before the week begins. Where? Someplace quiet. Tips for Weekly Planning P. 67 When? Before the week begins. Where? Someplace quiet. How Long? 20–30 minutes. 3 67 Habit Put First Things First

Review mission and roles. Choose BIG rocks. Plan Weekly Review mission and roles. Choose BIG rocks. Ask – What is most important thing I can do this week in that role? Schedule the week. I add 2 more steps… Execute My Day (Visualize) Review previous 2 weeks 3 67 Habit Put First Things First

Weekly Compass p. 68 3 68 Project Manager Parent Spouse Friend Habit Put First Things First

important thing I can do in this role this week? What Is the Most Important Thing? What is the most important thing I can do in this role this week? Project Manager Finalize budget Draft meeting agenda Parent Attend parent-teacher conference Spouse Date night Friend 3 69 Habit Put First Things First

What Stuck with You Today p. 74-75 Put First Things

Private Victory To Public Victory

End in Mind for PTP Transition from “me” to “we” Emotional bank account Investing in each other

Private Victory to Public Victory 79

Get it right with “Me” Before get it right with “We”

The Maturity Continuum Trust Achieving results while working with others Self- Discipline & follow through Trustworthiness 80 Private Victory to Public Victory

The Emotional Bank Account 82 Private Victory to Public Victory

EBA One Cartoon at a Time Video 4:59 EBA One Cartoon at a Time

The Emotional Bank Account p. 82 Deposits Seek first to understand. Show kindness, courtesy, respect. Keep promises. Be loyal to the absent. Set clear expectations. Apologize. Give feedback (“I” messages). Forgive. Withdrawals Assume you understand. Show unkindness, discourtesy, disrespect. Break promises. Be disloyal, badmouth. Create unclear expectations. Be proud and arrogant. Give no feedback or evaluate character (“you” messages). Hold grudges. 82 Private Victory to Public Victory

Honoring the Absent

It’s All About GRACE!

3:30 Kid President 3:30

More deposits= Higher Trust 5:1 rule Activity p. 83

5 Love Languages

Modeling: An EBA Strategy Use 7 Habits Language Model leadership Greetings Good eye contact Firm handshakes Attentively listening Random acts of kindness Smiling Positivity Compliments Proactive language Patience Forgiveness (PRE) Encouragement Appropriate humor Manners Follow through Keeping a promise Honoring other’s time Teachable moments Put the phone down!

A Soldier and a Gold Star Kid Pay It Forward 3:19 A Soldier and a Gold Star Kid 3:19 … ad ?? One of the big reasons we are here is to make good things happen for other people … a piece to the puzzle of putting the man together so the world can fall in to place … a put together man helps the rest of the world for sure We aren’t excellent things don’t make us excellent … it is because we are excellent people we choose to do excellent things If we want to be part of collegial organization, be a smover employee and leave a strong legacy … service focus on CBT web site

Envision and Plan …. P. 84 Consider ONE person Generate specific ideas for how you will give deposits (in their language) What deposits do you COMMIT to doing over the next week? Month? Who can help hold you accountable?

Habit 7 Sharpen the Saw 137

End in Mind for H7 Renew Regularly The 4 Dimensions Be Strong in the Hard Moments

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw 7 138 Encompasses BOTH the Private Victory & Public Victory 7 138 Habit Sharpen the Saw

xQ Tells You… “I plan activities that allow me to continuously improve my performance.” 34% 7 139 Habit Sharpen the Saw

Ever been so busy driving that you forget to get gas? Habit 7—Paradigms See Ineffective: I’m too busy today to take time for myself. Effective: I take time for myself every day because it gives me the ability to do everything. Ever been so busy driving that you forget to get gas? 7 139 Habit Sharpen the Saw

Habit 7—Principle Paradigm take time for myself every day To maintain and increase effectiveness, we must renew ourselves in body, heart, mind, and soul. Improved capacity Strong relationships Greater reserves Cont. improvement Renew Invest Result Behavior 7 139 Habit Sharpen the Saw

Rate yourself in each dimension on a scale from poor to excellent. The Four Dimensions - BALANCE – All CONNECTED! BODY HEART MIND SOUL Rate yourself in each dimension on a scale from poor to excellent. 7 140 Habit Sharpen the Saw

BALANCE Also a core belief … our clients, employees, shareholders and community are equally important Our health is our wealth – if we lose it, we lose everything Take care of your body – only place you have to live One of the main qulaities it takes to be successful is energy = it may be the only thing (K. Hepburn) Eat, Move, Sleep book Personal energy mismanagement is a silent thief of productivty When we keep borrowing against our future by poorly protecting our energy, there is a predictable outcome of either slowly running out of gas or prematurely crashing and burning … you try to do too much Without focus you burn out … high achievement and extraordinary results require big energy! .. Trick to learning how to get it and keep it … suggestions Start with meditation and prayer for spiritual energy, breakfast most important meal of the day (need nutrtion – can’t run long on empty calories or an empty tank), exercise to relieve stress – if limited time a pedometer, emotional energy (hug, talk, laugh with loved ones to remind why you’re working in the first place) – productive people thrive on this kind of energy .. First things first with calendar and get 8 hours of sleep Have an energized start to each day – positive energy creates positive momentum The One Thing book p. 198-201 Take time to exercise, catch up on your sleep and eat right Sharpen the saw story (but CBT has heard it)

BE STRONG IN THE HARD MOMENTS – 30 seconds of insane courage! Sharpen the Saw Activity Identify one activity from each of the 4 domains… Success with Working toward Committed to Want to start BE STRONG IN THE HARD MOMENTS – 30 seconds of insane courage! 7 140 Habit Sharpen the Saw

Daily Private Victory Video Habit 7 makes living all the other habits possible. Daily Private Victory 5:32 In order to live Habits 1-6 effectively, we need to COMMIT to Sharpen the Saw 7 137 Habit Sharpen the Saw

Give yourself permission and plan for it! Habit 7 Sharpen the Saw Give yourself permission and plan for it!