Cyberbullying May 2015 (Introduce yourself) Play video from Parenting in a Digital Age: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x4gozxfddF4 © 2015 AT&T Intellectual Property. All rights reserved. AT&T, the AT&T logo and all other AT&T marks contained herein are trademarks of AT&T Intellectual Property and/or AT&T affiliated companies. The information contained herein is not an offer, commitment, representation or warranty by AT&T and is subject to change.

bul∙ly∙ing /bo͝olēiNG/ A form of repeated aggression that is directed by one or more people towards another person. For Kids: What is bullying? Can you picture a bully or a time you’ve been bullied in your head right now? Can think of a time where you might have been a bully?   For Parents: We all know what bullying looks like. Many of us have experienced it ourselves and I think as parents, we all have a fear of bullying for our kids. A fear that our kids will be bullied or be a bully. SOURCE: No Bully; www.nobully.com © 2015 AT&T Intellectual Property. All rights reserved. AT&T, the AT&T logo and all other AT&T marks contained herein are trademarks of AT&T Intellectual Property and/or AT&T affiliated companies. The information contained herein is not an offer, commitment, representation or warranty by AT&T and is subject to change.

Bullying occurs in many forms 1. Physical 2. Verbal 3. Relational 4. Cyber Most bullying that involves young people includes a mixture of these four types.   Physical bullying is when someone uses physical force - hitting, shoving, pushing, kicking, hair pulling, spitting on someone, holding someone down, or using physical control. It also includes stealing or ruining property. Tends to be the most obvious … Why? Because it’s VISIBLE. Verbal bullying is using words to hurt others. We’ve all heard the old adage: sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never harm me; but we know that in reality, words are powerful. Examples of verbal bullying include threats, insults, name-calling, teasing, and ridicule. Relational bullying is intentionally attempting to threaten, damage, or manipulate someone’s relationships with their friends and family. Overall, relational bullying is an attempt to hurt someone’s social standing and feelings of social acceptance. Examples include leaving someone out, purposefully ignoring him or her or giving them the “silent treatment,” spreading rumors, whispering, gossiping, and telling others not to hang out or play with that person. Cyber bullying: This last type of bullying is the form I want to really focus on today. © 2015 AT&T Intellectual Property. All rights reserved. AT&T, the AT&T logo and all other AT&T marks contained herein are trademarks of AT&T Intellectual Property and/or AT&T affiliated companies. The information contained herein is not an offer, commitment, representation or warranty by AT&T and is subject to change.

cy∙ber∙bul∙ly∙ing /sībərˈbo͝olēiNG/ The use of digital media tools, such as the Internet and cell phones, to deliberately and repeatedly hurt, harass, or embarrass someone else. According to the National Crime Prevention Council, cyberbullying is “the use of digital media tools such as the Internet and cell phones to deliberately and repeatedly hurt, harass, or embarrass someone else.” Some examples: Deliberate and intentional (not the kid who was joking around with another and hurt his feelings by accident) Repeated (not a one-off incident) © 2015 AT&T Intellectual Property. All rights reserved. AT&T, the AT&T logo and all other AT&T marks contained herein are trademarks of AT&T Intellectual Property and/or AT&T affiliated companies. The information contained herein is not an offer, commitment, representation or warranty by AT&T and is subject to change.

Why is it so important to specifically address cyberbullying? How many of you have a phone in your pocket or bag right now? How many of you have looked at Instagram today? How many of you have taken a photo with your phone today? How many of you have texted your friends today? How many of you have watched a video on the Internet today?   Did you know? {Go over stats on slide if time allows} SOURCES: http://www.adweek.com/socialtimes/internet-minute-2013-2014/504301; TechSpartan.co.uk.) © 2015 AT&T Intellectual Property. All rights reserved. AT&T, the AT&T logo and all other AT&T marks contained herein are trademarks of AT&T Intellectual Property and/or AT&T affiliated companies. The information contained herein is not an offer, commitment, representation or warranty by AT&T and is subject to change.

Why is it so important to specifically address cyberbullying? How many teens describes themselves as “addicted” to their cell phones? How many social media users surveyed say they “often” encounter racists, homophobic, sexist, or anti- religious types of derogatory speech online?  5% 17% 21% 12% 18% 24% You all {teens} are some of the most vibrant technology users and because of that you’re often some of the most frequent victims and perpetrators of cyberbullying. Let’s look at some recent research from Common Sense. How many teens surveyed do you think say that they are “addicted” to their cell phones? Raise your hand if you think 5% … 17% … 21% … 41% (reveal animated answer) 41% say that they are “addicted.” Considering all the places that cyberbullying can occur online, how many teens surveyed say they “often” encounter of derogatory speech, such as racists, homophobic, sexist, or anti-religious comments, online? 12, 18, 24, or 30%? How many say 12%? 18%? 24%? 30%? The answer is 24%. That’s one out of four who are seeing such hateful speech. 41%  30%  SOURCE: Social media, Social Life: How Teens View Their Digital Lives, 2012 https://www.commonsensemedia.org/research/social-media-social-life-how-teens-view-their-digital-lives © 2015 AT&T Intellectual Property. All rights reserved. AT&T, the AT&T logo and all other AT&T marks contained herein are trademarks of AT&T Intellectual Property and/or AT&T affiliated companies. The information contained herein is not an offer, commitment, representation or warranty by AT&T and is subject to change.

How is cyberbullying different? Anonymous Among those who have ever used social media, how many admit to saying something bad about someone online or through texting that they wouldn’t have said in person? Disinhibited Public 24/7 Permanent 13% 25% Uncontrollable Inescapable 30% 35% What is it about cyberbullying that makes it different from physical, verbal, and face-to-face bullying?   Anonymous. Although kids being bullied often know who is doing the bullying, one way that cyberbullying is different is that kids can be anonymous with mean comments and harassing behavior. Among those teens surveyed that have used social media, how many do you think admit to saying something bad about someone online or through texting that they wouldn’t have said in person? How many of you say 13%? 25%? 30%? 35%? The answer is 25% - that’s one in the four teens seated around you. Disinhibited: Researchers have found that when people can be anonymous online, the “disinhibition effect” kicks in, where people act in ways they normally wouldn’t face-to-face or if their identity where linked to them. Public. The public nature of cyberbullying dramatically manifests the intensity and hurt. Whereas with in-person bullying, a few students may see the incident—with cyberbullying, the whole school can see it, and it can go viral. 24/7. Bullying can happen anywhere, anytime online. Uncontrollable. There is a feeling of a loss of control by the target. There is a helplessness not being able to control what people say about you online. Inescapable. Kids who are bullied feel like the world is closing in on them, feel like they can’t get away. Logging off or shutting off the device does not make a difference. Permanent. Messages are hard to take down, they can be cut, copied, pasted, altered, etc. Once something is online, there is permanence to it. {If time, show Brittney video} SOURCE: Social media, Social Life: How Teens View Their Digital Lives, 2012, https://www.commonsensemedia.org/research/social-media-social-life-how-teens-view-their-digital-lives © 2015 AT&T Intellectual Property. All rights reserved. AT&T, the AT&T logo and all other AT&T marks contained herein are trademarks of AT&T Intellectual Property and/or AT&T affiliated companies. The information contained herein is not an offer, commitment, representation or warranty by AT&T and is subject to change.

Where does cyberbullying occur? So where does cyberbullying occur? Cyberbullying can happen though instant messaging (IMing), within online multiplayer games, through email, on social media sites, in texting, within chat rooms, and through commenting (think YouTube). Anywhere else? © 2015 AT&T Intellectual Property. All rights reserved. AT&T, the AT&T logo and all other AT&T marks contained herein are trademarks of AT&T Intellectual Property and/or AT&T affiliated companies. The information contained herein is not an offer, commitment, representation or warranty by AT&T and is subject to change.

How big of a problem is cyberbullying among young people? How big a problem is cyberbullying? Here are some 2014 sobering facts from No Bully: Over half (52 percent) off young people report being cyber bullied. Over half (55 percent) of all teens who use social media have witnessed outright bullying via that medium. Of those who have witnessed cyberbullying, almost everyone ignored the behavior. 25 percent of teenagers report that they have experienced repeated bullying via their cell phone or on the internet. More than half of young people surveyed say that they never confide in their parents when cyber bullying happens to them. FOR PARENTS: Only one out of every six parents of adolescents and teens are even aware of the scope and intensity involved with cyber bullying. An astounding 95 percent of teens who witnessed bullying on social media report that others, like them, have ignored the behavior.   So how can we build a more positive culture and stand up the cyberbullying? SOURCE: No Bully, 2014; nobullying.com/cyber-bullying-statistics-2014 © 2015 AT&T Intellectual Property. All rights reserved. AT&T, the AT&T logo and all other AT&T marks contained herein are trademarks of AT&T Intellectual Property and/or AT&T affiliated companies. The information contained herein is not an offer, commitment, representation or warranty by AT&T and is subject to change.

What are some of the effects of cyberbullying? Emotional Physical The effects of cyberbullying can be devastating emotionally, physically, and psychologically. Targets can feel humiliated, embarrassed, depressed, sad, angry, and frustrated.   They can pull away from their friends, not want to go to school, and have problems at home. They may feel panicked and stressed, which can manifest in loss of sleep and even sickness. Along with a growing sense of low self-esteem and helplessness, targets can begin having suicidal thoughts and feelings. Psychological © 2015 AT&T Intellectual Property. All rights reserved. AT&T, the AT&T logo and all other AT&T marks contained herein are trademarks of AT&T Intellectual Property and/or AT&T affiliated companies. The information contained herein is not an offer, commitment, representation or warranty by AT&T and is subject to change.

Apps to help you work through tense moments AT&T and Momentous Institute have created three apps that can help you focus your energy on positive feelings to help you learn, play and participate in the activities you love. Settle Your Glitter guides you through a deep breathing exercise to help you regain control of your emotions and shift you focus back to learning. Breathing Bubbles helps you reflect on your good feelings and release your worries in an effort to improve your mood . Pass the Drop helps a group of you to focus your attention on the work at hand with the goal of reducing distractions. If questions: The apps are free and available for download on iPads with iOS 7 and higher, iPhones, and Samsung Tab 4s and Note 8s. © 2015 AT&T Intellectual Property. All rights reserved. AT&T, the AT&T logo and all other AT&T marks contained herein are trademarks of AT&T Intellectual Property and/or AT&T affiliated companies. The information contained herein is not an offer, commitment, representation or warranty by AT&T and is subject to change.

What can you do if you’re a victim of cyberbullying? 1. Save the evidence 2. Log off If you are the target of cyberbullying, there are some steps that you can take. 1. Save the evidence – print or screenshot the offending posts or comments 2. Log off – shut down your computer and step away from the negative comments 3. And speak up – do tell a trusted adult – a parent, teacher, coach, or older sibling. Cyberbullying is too much to handle alone. 3. Tell someone © 2015 AT&T Intellectual Property. All rights reserved. AT&T, the AT&T logo and all other AT&T marks contained herein are trademarks of AT&T Intellectual Property and/or AT&T affiliated companies. The information contained herein is not an offer, commitment, representation or warranty by AT&T and is subject to change.

What else can you do to help when it comes to bullying? Offer support Stand up Be a sympathetic ear Talk to a trusted adult Stand with the target So how can you help when it comes to cyberbullying?  First of all, you can offer support to the target. You don’t want to be a bystander … one who watches, stands by, and does nothing. If you see cyberbullying happening, stand up, be an Upstander. Stand with them the target – be a sympathetic ear and help them seek out possible solutions. If you feel comfortable doing so, try to help de-escalate the situation by talking with the bully or talking to a trusted adult about what’s going on. If you don’t feel comfortable standing up, at the very least stand with the target.   IF TIME: But, together we can make a difference by sticking up for each other more and more by promoting communities of kindness.  Take a look at this Facebook Story, We are All Daniel Cui. (play video)   © 2015 AT&T Intellectual Property. All rights reserved. AT&T, the AT&T logo and all other AT&T marks contained herein are trademarks of AT&T Intellectual Property and/or AT&T affiliated companies. The information contained herein is not an offer, commitment, representation or warranty by AT&T and is subject to change.

Be an #upstander! Join @ATT and take the pledge to help create a safe, responsible and respectful digital world: digitalyou.att.com “With great power comes great responsibility.” – Spiderman’s Uncle Ben Perhaps better than anyone else, you all know how awesome technology is. But, now you also now how powerful it is.    It’s up to you to help create a safe, responsible, and respectful digital world. Join #ATT and #standup against bullies. Take the pledge at: © 2015 AT&T Intellectual Property. All rights reserved. AT&T, the AT&T logo and all other AT&T marks contained herein are trademarks of AT&T Intellectual Property and/or AT&T affiliated companies. The information contained herein is not an offer, commitment, representation or warranty by AT&T and is subject to change.

Find our cyberbullying resources for families at www.commonsense.org/cyberbullying. Find our cyberbullying materials for schools at https://www.commonsensemedia.org/educators/cyberbullying-toolkit. Or browse all of our resources at www.commonsense.org. How many of you have a phone in your pocket or bag right now? How many of you have looked at Instagram today? How many of you have taken a photo with your phone today? How many of you have texted your friends today? How many of you have watched a video on the Internet today?   Did you know? {Go over stats on slide if time allows}