Around the Water Cooler… Don’t Let Small Talk Become BIG talk Cari L. Corley and Shelia Kirven 2018 Choctaw University Symposium

Halito! A little birdie told me…

THE GOSSIP GAME

“Both research and the experiences of those who have been the targets of gossip argue that gossip can hurt relationships and create a climate of fear and resentment, all of which feeds stress like humidity feeds a storm. And workplace stress, multiple studies show, causes problems ranging from a decline in productivity to a rise in illness and absenteeism.” Psychology Today

Dangers of Gossip in the Workplace Erosion of trust Lost productivity and wasted time Increased anxiety among employees as rumors circulate without clear information as to what is and isn’t fact Division among employees as people take sides Hurt feelings and reputations Attrition due to good employees leaving the company because of an unhealthy work environment

What if the gossip is about you??? Regulate your negative emotions Expand your perspective Practice self-compassion, and even forgiveness De-identify from the situation Consider how to respond Give it time Focus on what’s going right Remember that you are not alone -The Happiness Track: How to Apply the Science of Happiness to Accelerate Your Success (HarperOne, 2016)

Always remember that our minds like to cling to the negative Always remember that our minds like to cling to the negative. Shut out the negative talk. Protect your reputation and integrity. Have high standards. Let your actions speak for you.

What If… -Steve Marah

“It’s a fact of life: Where there are groups, there will be gossip “It’s a fact of life: Where there are groups, there will be gossip. It’s how we’re wired. But in the workplace, what’s natural can also be harmful- to morale, productivity, and careers.” Psychology Today

“Today will never come again. Be a blessing. Be a friend “Today will never come again. Be a blessing. Be a friend. Encourage someone. Take time to care. Let your words heal, and not wound.” www.frankiejohn.com

RESOURCES RESOURCES -Psychology Today - www.frankiejohn.com -WWW.3.forbes.com -Psychology Today - www.frankiejohn.com -www.shrm.org

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