Muslim Rites of Passage Wedding Ceremony
Aims of this lesson To be able to describe the events in a typical Muslim wedding ceremony. Understand the importance of the vows and readings from the Qur’an. Discuss the importance and implications of the wedding contract.
Muslim weddings are not based on the values that the Western world holds. Weddings are social contracts which bring rights and obligations to both parties, and can only be successful when these are mutually respected and cherished.
The actual Muslim wedding is known as a nikah The actual Muslim wedding is known as a nikah. It is a simple ceremony, at which the bride does not have to be present so long as she sends two witnesses to the drawn-up agreement. Sometimes the bride and groom are situated in different rooms and sign the contract separately.
Usually there are readings from the Qur’an and the vows are exchanged in front of witnesses from both families. There does not have to be a religious official present but usually the local Imam will conduct the ceremony.
There is one thing that is common to all Muslim weddings - All Muslim weddings have to be declared in public. This is usually in the form of a wedding feast or party and is to show that the couple are married and entitled to each other.
Many wedding customs are a matter of culture and not of Islam itself. Some ceremonies last for days, the colour of the brides dress varies, the nature of the feast and celebration also vary.
Contracts Marriage contracts vary but typically include details of: Polygamy Divorce Where the couple will live Responsibilities
Task Using the resource books find out as much as you can about wedding ceremonies and take notes in your jotters. Try to find information on the wedding vows and readings from the Qur’an. Be prepared to discuss your findings.
Discussion What do you think of the idea of having a wedding ‘contract’ that determines certain elements of married life? Are there any good reasons for having certain rules laid down? What problems could it bring?