Anger Part 1 Getting to the Heart

Never direct your rage at coworkers – that’s what your family is for.

Culture’s how to deal with teen anger Give them support and understanding. Try to get to the real issue not just what is on the surface. Let them know that everyone has negative emotions and that it's ok to get angry, but it's not ok to lash out because of their anger. Watch for triggers and find a way to deflect the anger into something more appropriate. Help them to recognize the feelings that cause the anger and how to deal with them before they get out of control.

Don’t Hang with an Angry man “Do not associate with a man given to anger; Or go with a hot-tempered man, Or you will learn his ways and find a snare for yourself.” ~Proverbs 22:24-25 “Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good morals.” ~I Corinthians 15:33

About the Heart Foolishness – Proverbs 15:2; 12:23 Folly Deceit – Proverbs 12:20 Evil Pride – Psalm 101:5; 131:1 Slander Wisdom – Colossians 3:16 Teaching & Admonishing Virtue – Proverbs 22:11 Gracious Gentleness – I Peter 3:4 Quietness HEART MOUTH “For the mouth speaks out of that which fills the heart. The good man brings out of his good treasure what is good and the evil man brings out of his evil treasure what is evil.” Matt. 12:34b-35

About the Heart of anger Love of Control “I wrote something to the church; but Diotrophes, who loves to be first among them, does not accept what we say. For this reason, if I come, I will call attention to his deeds which he does, unjustly accusing us with wicked words; and not satisfied with this, neither does he himself receive the brethren and he forbids those who desire to do so, and puts them out of the church.” 3 John 9-10 Love of self “But realize this that in the last days difficult times will come. For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money… lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God.” 2 Tim 3:1-2,4

About the heart of Anger Encompassing anger Outbursts of anger Argumentative Disrespect Fighting Animosity Cruelty Strife (rivalry) Acts of Vengeance Malice (meanness) Bitterness Discouragement Lost in Translation “I’m frustrated” “That annoys me” “I hate it when…” “Why doesn’t she just…” “They never let me have any fun.” “I don’t like it when…” “My parents are slave drivers” “I want it and I’m going to have it” “That’s not fair”

About the heart of Anger Righteous Anger When God doesn’t get what He wants God’s will is violated God is God Sinful Anger When I don’t get what I want My will is violated I am god

The Development of Rebellion Ecclesiastes 7:9 Fool STUBBORNESS Ruler of Self I Samuel 15:23 ANGER Ephesians 6:4 Habitual BITTERNESS Hebrews 12:15-17 Dwelling on the offense HURT Proverbs 18:14 Real or Perceived

Is their anger in YOUR heart? Fool Checklist Anger Journal What happened that provoked me to anger? What did I say and/or do when I became angry? What does the Bible say about what I did and/or said when I became angry? What should I have done/said when I became angry? Check Motivation & Desires

About Anger Righteous Anger When God doesn’t get what He wants God’s will is violated God is God Motivation: Sincere love for God Christ is Lord of my life Sinful Anger When I don’t get what I want My will is violated I am god Motivation: Love of my heart’s idol I am lord (boss) of my life

Application Identify Your Anger Deal with your anger biblically Does my heart get easily angered? Would others say I get angry easily? When? Where? At who? At what? Deal with your anger biblically youthteam.org/biblical-answers_2/anger Seek Biblical Counseling CBC Counseling Ministry