Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. www.bullyfree.com abeane@bullyfree.com

Help Your School Be Bully Free by Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. abeane@bullyfree.com (270) 227-0431 www.bullyfree.com

To talk with you about a serious problem! Your school cares about you. Why Am I Here? To talk with you about a serious problem! Your school cares about you. Your school needs your help. You hear it and see it when the adults don’t – it’s done in secret. Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

What is the problem? Students Mistreating Students Peer Victimization Peer Abuse Bullying Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Your school hates bullying. I hate bullying. I believe you hate bullying. You have good hearts. Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

“Treat others the way you want to be treated.” I believe in the Golden Rule! What is the Golden Rule? “Treat others the way you want to be treated.” Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Why Dr. Beane developed the Bully Free Program Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

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Forrest Gump Movie www.bullyfree.com Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Forrest Gump (Paramount Pictures, 1994) Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Forrest Gump Memories Mistreatment is remembered! Apple lesson Styrofoam plate and skewer lesson Paper lesson Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Kindness is remembered! Jenny obeyed the Golden Rule! Voice of kindness Voice of acceptance Voice of courage Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

What kind of memories are you creating? Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

No one deserves to be mistreated! Why was Forrest mistreated? Important Truth! No one deserves to be mistreated! Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Definition of Bullying Bullying is intentional aggressive behavior that hurts a person’s body, feelings or things and/or is threatening. The mistreatment is persistent (repeated) and there is an imbalance of strength (power). Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

What does bullying look like? www.bullyfree.com Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Hitting, slapping, elbowing, and shouldering (slamming) Pushing and shoving Kicking Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Cramming someone into his or her locker Pinching Cramming someone into his or her locker Sexual harassment Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Stealing or damaging property or belongings Restraining Name-calling Insulting remarks and put-downs Repeated teasing Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Threats and intimidation Racist remarks Threats and intimidation Whispering about someone behind their back Turning someone’s best friend against them Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Embarrassment and humiliation - making someone look foolish Destroying reputations (gossiping and spreading mean and hurtful rumors and lies about someone) Embarrassment and humiliation - making someone look foolish Negative body language (mean and rejecting facial expressions, turning your back to someone) Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Excluding someone from a group (social rejection and isolation) Hurtful graffiti Excluding someone from a group (social rejection and isolation) Mean and hurtful notes passed around or sent to someone Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Hate petitions (promising to hate someone) Cyber bullying Hurtful and/or threatening: Text messages E-mail Internet (MySpace, Facebook and other social networks) Etc. Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Shut your eyes! If you know someone who is mistreated every day at school, raise your hand. If you feel like you are mistreated almost every day at school, raise your hand. Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Why must bullying stop? Causes health problems and can’t sleep well Depression, anxiety, eating disorders, posttraumatic stress, school phobia, etc. Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Bullying Weakens the mind Weakens the heart Weakens the body Weakens the spirit Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Mistreated students sometimes harm themselves and even commit suicide Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Remembering 33 Young People Who Killed Themselves Because of Bullying Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

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Mistreated students sometimes harm others Revenge School Shootings Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

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Michael Carneal – Heath High School Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

The Testimony of Missy Jenkins-Smith Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

The movie Mask! www.bullyfree.com Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Mask (Universal City Studios, Inc. 1985) Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Did the student in this movie obey the Golden Rule when he said, “Hey kid, why don’t you take your mask off?” Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Guard Your Tongue! www.bullyfree.com Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Lessons about the Tongue Toothpaste lesson Banana lesson Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

But you can: You can’t take back what you said or did. Say, “I was wrong.” Say, “I am sorry.” Say, “Please forgive me.” Be kind to the person. Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Did the students who laughed at what was said to Rocky obey the Golden Rule? Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Guard Your Heart! www.bullyfree.com Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Guard Your Heart Lessons Bottle of water lesson Coke can lesson Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Bystanders are Powerful! Don’t laugh or join in when someone is mistreated. Don’t ignore it when someone is mistreated. Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Report it! www.bullyfree.com Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

PSA Develop By Murray High Students Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

Snowflakes are powerful when they stick together. They can stop a big truck! They can shut down an airport! Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

The Good News is. . . IF YOU ARE BEING BULLIED: We know how to help you and we can teach you to help yourself! IF YOU ARE A BULLY: We know how to help you stop mistreating others! Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

IF YOU ARE BYSTANDER (WITNESS TO BULLYING): You are powerful. You don’t have to laugh. You don’t have to ignore it. You can REPORT IT! You and your friends can take a stand against bullying. Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com

I challenge you!! I dare you!! www.bullyfree.com Copyright May 2005, Allan L. Beane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved www.bullyfree.com