Three Stages of a Relationship All relationships go through these stages. Whether it is friendship or a romantic relationship, one can expect to see these stages.

Stage #1: The Sparkle (Infatuation) To begin this relationship you must be open and vulnerable In the beginning, the person seems perfect for you You can’t see enough of each other Any lack of attention brings anxiety, fear, rejection, and/or jealousy You don’t see the other person’s faults/imperfections

Stage #2: The Disillusionment Begin to see the other person’s faults Become irritable or competitive with each other Thinking “maybe they aren’t as perfect as I thought” One of the following may happen: Come to grips with the imperfections (you accept who they are and are OK with that) OR Withdrawal of affection and ending of relationship (you realize they are not the person for you)

Stage #3: Mutual Acceptance (Mature Love) See and accept the flaws in the other person Can be yourself and feel secure without jealousy Trust has been built over time. Can be adventuresome and spontaneous Affirms your self worth (they make you feel positive about yourself)