Development of Emotional Intelligence & Emotional Regulation Skills Lorena Rucaj

TODAY’S AGENDA

Goals Gain an understanding of ER processes in the brain and learn the 5 competencies for building EI Learn to develop personal EI by engaging in daily exercises that train the brain into key areas of EI Learn specific ER skills to handle negative feelings and experiences Learn to maintain emotional stability through personal programming of thoughts and reality, use of mindfulness tools and practice of meditation Learn to teach appropriate ER skills to clients

Why is EI important ? RESEARCH FINDINGS How do we measure it ?

History “Emotional expression is essential for survival” Darwin 1877 Henry Day: Individual’s mental process are dominated by a cognitive interconnection between feelings, intelligence, and endeavor 1880 Bain: Feelings & emotions are cognitively interconnected. So is the individual’s self- emotions, beliefs, morality, & the individual’s capacity for controlling one’s own thinking, feeling, & emotions. 1910 James Sully: emotions and intellect influence the individual’s perception. The combination of emotional & intellectual experiences works as a modifying influence in then individual. 1920 Thorndike: Three types of intelligence: social intelligence, mechanical intelligence, & abstract intelligence. Social intelligence was described as: “The ability to understand & manage men & women, boys & girls-to act wisely in human relations”

History 1940 David Wechsler: The concept of “Non-Cognitive Intelligence” (aspects of intelligence that were not related to traditionally measured cognitive skills) 1983 Howard Garder: Intelligence-”ability to solve a problem”. Interpersonal intelligence: “the ability to understand other people, motivate them, how they work, how to work practically with them” Garder “Frames of Mind: The Theory of Multiple Intelligences”. Proposed 2 additional intelligences (apart from the one measured by IQ tests): Intrapersonal & Interpersonal Intelligence. 1985 the term “Emotional Intelligence” was solidified/introduced in mainstream language. Wayne Payne: “A Study of Emotion: Developing Emotional Intelligence” 1995 Daniel Goleman published best seller: “Emotional Intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ”.

The Brain and Emotional Intelligence https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xNY0AAUtH3g

Neuroanatomical Models of ER Preconscious: Cognitive processing happening in the brain as the situation is occurring, even before we are aware of it-are influencing how we interpret our emotions and current situation Conscious Processing: Immediate attention shift. Shifting attention to the source of threat (social approach), or shifting attention away (avoidance). These are forms of regulating my attention and thus influencing emotions. Emotional Appraisal: How do I label that emotion. My interpretation of the emotion Cognitive Re-Appraisal: Using our thinking and prospective ability to change the meaning Meta Cognitive Processing: Thinking about our way of thinking.

EI Self-Awareness Relationships/Interpersonal Dynamics Self-Regulation Empathy & Social Awareness Relationships/Interpersonal Dynamics

Self-Awareness Thoughts ~ Thinking Patterns Internal Processing Defining Map of Reality Reframing Personal Programming (self- talk/meditation/visualization/self-suggestion) Establishing New Habits

Self-Awareness

Self-Awareness

Self Regulation Internal Processing of Emotions ALT+DELETE Emotional Maintenance

Empathy & Social Awareness Recognizing emotions in others Understanding causes and consequences of emotions in others (other’s internal processing) Empathizing

Relationships~ Interpersonal Dynamics Communication: verbal & non verbal Social skills Developing rapport & resonance Conflict management Matching ~Leading ~ Pacing ~ Connecting Influence~ Positivity

Spiritual Awakening Who is the creator of my thoughts? Body Consciousness versus Soul Consciousness Maintenance of Emotional Stability/ Daily Practice

Conclusions