Recap of Core Motives & Natural Talents Red Blue White Yellow Core Motive Power Intimacy Peace Fun Natural Talents Leadership Vision Quality Service Clarity Tolerance Enthusiasm Optimism

What is Emotional Intelligence?

Core Motives Interactions

Red-Red Relationships Fireworks Strengths Knows how to get things done Willing to take risks Not tied down by regrets Limitations Often highly critical of each other Lack of compassion Carry no emotional baggage

Red-Blue Relationships Blood, Sweat and Tears Strengths Very loyal combination Reds provide vision, Blues quality Dependable and responsible Limitations Both seek to control each other Don’t easily understand each other Red thinks with head/Blue thinks with heart

Red-White Relationships Fire and Ice Strengths Both are logical, easing understanding Reds are delegators, Whites doers Whites are calming, Reds motivating Limitations Whites dislike demands, Reds are demanding Whites like kindness, Reds can be unkind Both are too independent

Red-Yellow Relationships Fire and Ice Strengths Both are great communicators Both are willing to take risks Yellow’s fun can balance Red’s intensity Limitations Both colors can be insensitive Yellow are emotional, Reds logical Yellow’s irresponsibility annoys Reds Reds intense focus can frustrate Yellows

Blue-Blue Relationships Close and Comfortable Strengths Both share intense focus on quality and detail Both are reliable and dependable Both are considerate of the other Limitations Both can be overly serious and self-critical Could get too focused on on details May be overly critical of each other

Blue-White Relationships Gentle Persuasion Strengths Both are good at working independently Mutual strengths in service and compassion They don’t get in each other’s way Limitations Whites don’t like control, Blues like to control Neither color appreciates change Blues over communicate, Whites undercommunicate

Blue-Yellow Relationships Hand in Glove Strengths Share a natural emotion connection Both are creative and good problem solvers They don’t get in each other’s way Limitations They can get hung up on emotions Yellows think Blues are too serious, Blues can be offended by Yellow’s sarcasm

White-White Relationships Peace and Tolerance Strengths Lack of conflict because both are accepting Logical problem solving Egoless relationship Limitations Relationship lacks leadership Both can feel overwhelmed by challenges Relationship may lack passion or energy

White-Yellow Relationships Gentle Fun Strengths Respects each other’s individuality Yellows like to talk; Whites like to listen Neither likes conflict Limitations Neither is a natural leader Neither is goal oriented Yellows are very social, Whites enjoy privacy

Yellow-Yellow Relationships Sparkle and Shine Strengths Both are creative, optimistic, and enthusiastic Both are great communicators They seek fun, excitement, and risk Limitations Neither one will naturally think of the other Both are easy on themselves and each other They lack discipline or logical focus

Interacting with Reds When interacting with Reds, you SHOULD: Present issues logically, while being direct, brief and specific. Demand attention and respect. Let them lead the way, then be supportive of their leadership.

Interacting with Reds When interacting with Reds, you SHOULD NOT: Embarrass them in front of others Talk too much about your feeling or make emotional arguments. Take forever to make a decision--Reds are not patient!

Interacting with Blues When interacting with Blues, you SHOULD: Give them time to collect their thoughts. Be sensitive and sincere. Show your appreciation for them, mind your manners, and behave appropriately. Be loyal and help them feel secure in your relationship.

Interacting with Blues When interacting with Blues, you SHOULD NOT: Make them feel guilty or be rude. Expect them to forgive quickly or act spontaneously. Make big, unexpected changes. Blues need time to adjust.

Interacting with Whites When interacting with Whites, you SHOULD: Create a relaxed, non-threatening atmosphere. Be gentle and patient; try not to rush them. Look for clues into their feelings that they’re showing but not saying.

Interacting with Whites When interacting with Whites, you SHOULD NOT: Be cruel or insensitive. Overwhelm them with too much information or change at once. Expect them to talk very much or very quickly.

Interacting with Yellows When interacting with Yellows, you SHOULD: Be positive and upbeat--remember that Yellows are more sensitive than they appear. Recognize their contributions and praise them for what they’ve done well. Offer them opportunities for fun and let them be creative.

Interacting with Yellows When interacting with Yellows, you SHOULD NOT: Be too serious or critical. Try to control their schedules or push them too hard. Be offended when they playfully tease you or joke around.

Your Plan for Building Relationships Exercise