CVE 5074 – Leading Construction Operations Presented by: Hani Baatiyyah & Hamed Al Hinai

Outline Part 1 – Understanding Yourself and Others Two Keys to Understand People What’s Your Style? Part 2 – Style Flex: A Key to Improved Relationships The Style Flex Solution to People Differences Four Steps to Better Relationships Flexing in Special Situations Part 3 – People’s Styles and Family Relationships The Art of Loving Someone Very Different from Yourself Style-Based Parenting

Part 1 – Understanding Yourself and Others Part 1 – Understanding Yourself and Others Two Keys To Understand People Assertiveness is the degree to which people’s behavior is seen as forceful and self-confidence without being aggressive. More Assertive People Less Assertive People Move more rapidly Move more Slowly Speak more rapidly and loudly Speak less rapidly and softly Decide more quickly and address problem more quickly Take more time to arrive at decisions and slower to address problem Demonstrate anger more quickly Demonstrate anger less quickly Have more intense eye contact and exude more energy Have less intense eye contact and demonstrate less energy

Part 1 – Understanding Yourself and Others Part 1 – Understanding Yourself and Others Two Keys To Understand People Responsiveness Is the degree to which people are seen as showing emotions and demonstrating awareness. More Responsive People Less Responsive People Express Feeling more openly Less disclosing of feeling Appear more Friendly Appear more reserved More Comfortable with small talk Less interested in small talk Prefer Working with Other More comfortable working alone Dress More Casually Dress more formally Less structured in their use of time More structured in their use of time

Part 1 – Understanding Yourself and Others What’s your Style? Analytical They rarely compliment others They are organized systematic They are slow decision makers. Amiable They are Friendly and generous They are excellent team players Quiet workers.

Part 1 – Understanding Yourself and Others What’s your Style? Driver They get right to the point They are more task oriented They are likely to change their minds Expressive They are impulsive They are less attention to clock and calendar time They are the most outgoing of the People Styles.

Part 2 – Style Flex : A Key to Improve Relationships The Style Flex Solution to People Differences Basic Flex A Flexible person treats the others the way everyone wants to be treated Style flex The temporary adjustment of your behavior to make interaction more comfortable for the other person. Adjusting your behavior A relationship would work better if some changes were made Adjusting a few behaviors: Adjust no more than two to three types of behavior Flexing your style only at key times: Only flex your style when it is appropriate.

Part 2 – Style Flex : A Key to Improve Relationships Four Steps to Better Relationships Identify The first step is to identify your style and the style of the other person. Plan Plan ahead Selecting the specific types of behavior you will adapt and how you will adapt them. Implement Stick to the changes you plan and monitor the other person’s reaction. Evaluate Review the Process and draw lessons for future interactions.

Part 2 – Style Flex : A Key to Improve Relationships Flexing in Special Situations Flexing to your Manager Locate yourself and manager on a style map Focus on Manager’s Strongest Preferences Focus on “How would you like me to work with you?”

Part 2 – Style Flex : A Key to Improve Relationships Flexing in Special Situations Flexing to the People you Manage Give People the freedom to do things their way Common way to change people’s fundamental way of doing things Use Style Flex in team meetings

Part 2 – Style Flex : A Key to Improve Relationships Flexing in Special Situations Flexing to a Group Identify Plan Implement Evaluate

Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships The four phases of Intimate Relationship Phase I : Attraction Phase II : Frustration Phase III : Adjustment Phase IV : Devotion

Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships Attraction Different styles attract each other Ranges From moderate to Intense Moderate “The time is right, and we should get married!” Intense Partners are “Swept off their feet” “Crazy” about each other! Feels like she/he cannot live without the other

Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships Frustration Each one tries to change the other’s “bad” qualities (child-rearing, spending,..) Each one resisting the change effort! Phase II Frustration causes many to give up! Most divorce occurs in the first two years of marriage

Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships Frustration It can contribute significantly to the development of genuine love. If it happens before marriage, it helps you make a better choice of who you will be spending your life with. It is important to be able to see your partner as he/she actually is (strength and weaknesses)

Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships Adjustment Stress Struggling with jobs Children Responsibilities Tips to deal with these challenges Mindset of Acceptance instead of Judgement Change yourself not your partner Appreciate and celebrate your differences

Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships Devotion Realistic Confidence in the Relationship They Enjoy a Rich Intimacy They “Go with the Flow” of the Relationship

Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships Style-Based Parenting Accept that raising a kid is tough Map your family Introduce your child to the people’s style model Accept your Child’s Style Accept your parenting style

Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships Accept that raising a kid is tough Having Children helps a marriage? Often arrives after the attraction phase Needs much attention to the child than one another Can’t go out as freely Jalousie from the husband!

Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships Map your Family

Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships Introduce your Child to the people’s style Help your child to understand themselves and others Orient them to the basic model Start from a young age, it’s easier Give them positive feedback on what they like to do Use the children’s vocabulary to expressing anything

Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships Accept your child’s style It is part of their genetic Makeup It is an essential part of who she/he is

Part 3 – People Styles and Family Relationships Accept your Parenting style Mothers Cultural Stereotype that mother should be affectionate and supportive Amiable style Studies shows Different Many ways to be good Mother! Accept your parenting Style Make the most strengths and keep your weaknesses away Fathers Expected to be Assertive head of household Drivers Style