HARMONIUS RELATIONS

Foundation: Internal Harmony- Know, and love yourself- no matter what. 1st Lovingly accept strengths and weaknesses and try to improve the latter. Positive self talk and visualization imp. Deliberate excursions into past and future for confidence building. Use Diary of Excellence. What others tell you about your capability not IMP, what you think about yourself is IMP. Others: Accept their strengths and weaknesses as well. IMP- Don’t try to change them. Daily Love, Prayers, gratitude, compliments, help you to deal with them peacefully and positively even in tricky situations. These are lubricants for overcoming friction due to interaction between selfish individuals.

With these they are likely to be more helpful. No guarantees With these they are likely to be more helpful. No guarantees. Think whether negativity instead of the above will bring better results. This is what we routinely do without understanding disastrous consequences. Always apply Serenity Principle. We are always better off controlling what we can (ourselves) rather than trying to control/change others, which is futile. Avoid Exploitation-self/others, while helping/seeking help. Looking for Partner? Be worthy of a good one you desire. Joyful persons attract similar kind. Pray for others- Abundance Thinking Girls: Make yourself capable to confidently handle discrimination. Don’t expect others to make it easy. Family & Self Expectations: Abundance Thinking. Serenity Principle. No worries, no cribbing Supervisor: Short stay in relationship kind. Tremendous differences in nature, temperament possible. Grossly unequal relationship-True. But you knew what you were getting into.

He may have large no. of students, and not give you enough, quality time. He may not even like you, and think you are incompetent. With all this, which approach is likely to bring better results, positive or negative? With latter, things worsen and go out of hand fast. With former, there is strong hope to turn things around. During discussions, respectfully & confidently tell what you think is right. Question everything. Fundamental quality of researcher. Always have confidence to do well on your own, without much help from anywhere, except God. Improvements can begin almost at any stage. Large no. of students have miraculously turned things around even in 4th/5th year.

Worst situation: If you see things going beyond acceptable level, try to detect as early as you can. Think of all possibilities with a meditative state of mind, seeking guidance from within. Then take whatever decision may appear fit, including leaving the program, trying to change supervisor(not easy). If handled with maturity and peace along with love, prayers for all concerned, surprising help may come your way. Must take counsel from peaceful, happy and wise family/faculty members.