Advice from Psychology, and Clark. Heathy relationships Advice from Psychology, and Clark.

Boys Driven by testoterone, a hormone made by the testes Creates low voices, broad shoulders, muscular features, body hair At peak times, can create ego, anger, temper and protective nature Cycles daily, highest just before waking up, and again around 9pm Lowest at noon

BOYS Males of the species are created to breed and protect the brood. Males are designed to continue their own blood lines Males are normally attracted to females they see as potentially good mothers, who show they can have a successful pregnancy and carry a baby to term, and will nurture and protect the child as it grows. Human Males can reproduce as early as 12 years old, and as old as 80+ Most males have a window that they desire children, usually 20-40.

GIRLS Girls are driven by estrogen and progesterone The estrogen cycle is “normally” 28 days. The uterus prepares for pregnancy during the cycle. If no fertilized egg implants, the uterus has to expel the preparations and start all over. Females are usually fertile for 7 days of this cycle, with 2 days of absolute fertility as long as there are no underlying problems. Estrogen and Progesterone are responsible for a female’s body shape and features that indicate a good potential mother

GIRLS Girls look for a mate that will provide a good child. Girls are more “type” driven than boys. They know what features they are looking for. Girls mature at a younger age. They usually know what kind of mate they are looking for just after the onset of puberty. Girls look farther than initial attraction when selecting a mate Girls can reproduce starting at the first menses until menopause, usually around the early to mid 50s.

Homosexuality Not much is know on the science behind homosexuality. Same sex attraction is not new, but the social stigma is slowly being removed. Science and medicine both believe that homosexuality is not a choice but a reprogramming of the psyche to be attracted to traits of person of the same sex that can occur at birth, or at any point in the lifespan.

SO, how do I know Who? You can thank genetics, pheromones, DNA and society for who and what you find attractive. Take a good look at your own family. If your family unit is loving, you will look for people like them. If your family unit is not ideal, you will look for opposite types. So how and why does it all work?

Making friends Do you remember your first friend? Was is geographic? circumstance? Similar interests? How do you make friends now? Is it different? How do you think you will make friends when you are 40?

The one? Is he/she the ONE? Did you find your PERSON (I HATE Grays Anatomy) Did ya? You sure?

At first sight? Rarely is love at first sight a thing. What is a crush? What is the difference between lust and love? What attracts you? What keeps you attracted? Do you know why?

Communicate!? What do you think? What to you feel? What do you want? How much time do you spend face to face? How does your partner talk to you? How do you treat each other during a disagreement? Are you petty? Be honest with yourself. NOBODY is a mind reader! Do you really listen? Do they?

Appreciate or depreciate? How often do you say “thank you” How often do you pay a sincere compliment? How often do you do things with your partner in mind? How often do you do things just to see them smile? What do you tell your friends about your partner? Your family?

trust? Do you trust your partner? Would they let you go through their phone? Would you? Do you get jealous? Why? Do you have a reason? Is trust able to be regained after it has been lost? PS: If you ever find yourself trying to decide between 2 people, choose the second.

Time well spent? How much time do you spend together? What do you do? What should you do? What is your idea of a perfect date? What is their idea of a perfect date? When was the last time you tried something new together?

The future? Do you talk about the future? Do you share some common goals? Do your goals complement each other? Do you share beliefs? Do you share similar ideas on family, living and career goals?

A fairy tale?. Life is not a romantic movie. It is not a fairy tale. All humans are different. All humans have faults. Don’t try and see your partner for more than they are. Do not expect drastic changes, only small growth. Find pleasure in the ordinary. Look for the good things.

Clark’s observations Pettiness with your partner = unhappiness Crushes rarely work out. If they are not awkward at first, they are not into you. Loyalty should be automatic, and sacred. Everyone deserves a no drama day. They don’t really like you if their momma doesn’t know your name. Bad attitudes are the downfall of many relationships. Treat your partner the way you expect to be treated. Don’t expect a king/queen if you treat them like the hired help.

Why though? When you deal with the emotions of the healthcare field, having a solid, healthy relationship is a key to happiness. You have to be able to talk about things to someone who understands you in order to keep your emotions in check. This applies not only to a partner, but also to friends and family as well.

As you get older How does this change when you are 30? 40? 50? 60? Older than that??