Yes! Refer back to the question on the previous slide. Is this abuse?

Refer to the clip (Is this abuse Refer to the clip (Is this abuse?) and why the answer to the question is YES. The pink highlighted bubbles show some examples of the abuse that are evident in the clip from slide 1. Any relationship can be abusive/unhealthy. (Yellow colours are other types of abuse)

Warning Signs Being able to tell the difference between healthy, unhealthy and abusive relationships can be more difficult than you might think. No two relationships are the same.

In a healthy relationship, both partners respect and trust one another and embrace each other’s differences. Both partners are able to communicate their needs effectively and listen to each other, working to resolve conflict in a rational and non-violent way.

Handle problems more effectively Face Up is a resource which provides an opportunity to explore young peoples relationships and to use the knowledge and understanding gained to make informed choices in the future.  How? Handle conflict Handle problems more effectively Students are informed about FACE UP and where it will be used in school (in tutor/as a set of lessons/year group) and the skills they will develop from using this resource. Be able to ask for help Intervene

The Dominator The Friend Shouts Sulks Smashes things Makes you feel ugly and useless Calls you names Cuts you off from your friends Stops you doing what you want Never admits they are wrong Is cheerful Is consistent Is supportive Tells you you’re capable and look good Uses your name Trusts you, welcomes your friends and family Trusts your judgement Admits to being wrong Examples of characteristics of healthy and unhealthy relationships. The aim is to start the thinking process of identifying what is healthy and what is unhealthy in a romantic relationship.

The Dominator The Friend Turns against you Uses others to control you Never does their share Controls the money Expects sex on demand Seduces people close to you Expects you to be responsible for their well-being Threatens you to get their own way Supports your learning, career choice etc. Encourages you to be independent Shares any work Shares financial responsibility Accepts that you have a right to say “no” Is faithful Takes responsibility for their own well-being and happiness Can communicate what they want calmly and make compromises

What is an unhealthy relationship? Usually a series of abusive behaviours over a course of time - used to exert power and control over a partner. Dating Violence Controlling Unhealthy Key terms Coercive Abusive relationship

Checking phones, emails or social networks without permission Extreme jealousy or insecurity Constant belittling or put-downs Explosive temper Isolation from family and friends Physically inflicting pain or hurt in any way Making false accusations Erratic mood swings Possessiveness Telling someone what to do Examples of what an unhealthy relationship is.

Every relationship is different, but the things that unhealthy and abusive relationships have in common are issues of power and control. Violent words and actions are tools an abusive partner uses to gain and maintain power and control over their partner. Any young person can experience dating abuse or unhealthy relationship behaviours, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, socio-economic standing, ethnicity, religion or culture. It does not discriminate and can happen to anyone in any relationship, whether it’s one that is casual and short-term or serious and monogamous.

What advice would you give a friend? Students need to know there is help in school. This slide gives some examples of who students can turn to in school. Students may feel embarrassed seeking help- encourage them to understand this and advise accordingly talking through who the above named individuals are in school and who else they may speak to. What advice would you give a friend?

Where to go for help! Contact 999 if you are in immediate danger The National Domestic Violence Helpline www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk 0808 2000 247   The ‘This Is Abuse’ campaign www.disrespectnobody.co.uk ChildLine www.childline.org.uk 0800 1111 Men’s Advice Line www.mensadviceline.org.uk 0808 801 0327 Broken Rainbow provides support to lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people in abusive relationships www.brokenrainbow.org.uk 0300 999 5428 It is important to make this section available to students without them having to ask for it. Printing this slide as a compulsory handout, or making the information available on the school website are two ways to approach this. You could also include local organisations who can help with domestic abuse.