Psychwrite #8: Date: 1 pt Copy Question: 1 pt Psychwrite #8: Date: 1 pt Copy Question: 1 pt. Answer (in 3-5 lines): 3 pts. Americans are hung up on romantic love. Why might this obsession lead to shorter marriages?

Psychology of Love and Attraction Happy Valentine’s Day

What factors influence attraction? Think - Pair – Share what makes someone attractive to you. Brain Games & Attraction 2:18-9:32

Limerance- Ever had that "I-need-him-I-know-we-are- meant-to-be-together-I-know-it-I-can't-breathe- I-can't-sleep-I-love-him-so-much" feeling, you may have experienced limerence.

Obsessive thinking about the object of your affection I know you can identify with this one.  You can't get any work done.  You've forgotten how to tie your shoes.  All you can think about is him/her.  You're on a high from the endorphins in your brain.  You can't eat, you can't sleep. 

Irrationally positive evaluation of their attributes Also known as, "Oh, he's an axe murderer?  I can work with that." 

Emotional dependency You feel like you need him/her around to just be able to breathe.  You feel an ache when they are not around - even when they are just at their office ten miles away.  Or in the next room.

Longing for reciprocation This is where it gets tricky.  The cruel side of fate is that your affection may not be felt by the other party.  You may tell yourself, "He/she hasn't called because they are so busy."  While this may hold true for a couple days, if you haven't heard back from your intended beloved for a week or two, it's time to reevaluate the situation.  However, those feelings of irrational love remain.  If only your heart would listen to what your brain already knows.

What is the science of kissing? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dwJ-wwF9XVs

Limerance fades (for good or bad), so what comes next? Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love

Sternberg’s theory describes a total of 7 types of relationships: Consummate/Intimacy (the highest form): High on all three dimensions Infatuated: High on passion only Fatuous: High on passion and commitment Empty: High on commitment only Companionate: High on intimacy and commitment 6. Romantic: High on intimacy and passion 7. Liking/friendship: High on intimacy only

In groups, read these brief descriptions, and for each one, choose which types of love it is. 1.  You have been together for several years, still feel very close and connected emotionally, but do not always feel the same passion toward one another as you once did. 2.  You have a strong sexual drive and a need for physical and romantic contact with each other, but do not feel very close to each other. You have not planned for your future together, and in fact have not even thought about any form of long-term commitment. 3.  You have been married or cohabiting for a long time and still verbally proclaim your love for each other, but admit to having lost much of the emotional connectedness, as well as the sexual desire that you once had.

4. After more than 6 years together, you are as “in love” as ever 4. After more than 6 years together, you are as “in love” as ever. You remain close and connected, very sexually and romantically in sync, and are completely committed to each other and to your relationship. 5. You have been together for only a couple of months, and although you feel you have become close and are connected emotionally, you have yet to become passionately involved or think about your future commitment. 6. You are in love and have a strong sexual desire for one another, are very close and connected emotionally, but have yet to discuss any future plans that would include a decision to commit only to each other. 7. You have been together for a while and are planning on staying together. You continue to maintain a healthy and satisfying sex life, but say you do not feel very closely connected where emotion is concerned.

Let’s see how that looks in regards to that lovely (or evil) holiday this weekend You are to make a PRETEND Valentine for a PRETEND person that demonstrates that type of love. You will randomly draw which type of love to demonstrate. You must incorporate the words from your Dove chocolate wrapper into the valentine. Put your name on the BACK. I will be displaying them on my door and wall. Have fun and be creative!

The Love Competition https://aeon.co/videos/contestants-have-five-minutes-in-an-fmri-to-love- someone-as-hard-as-they-can