Rights & Responsibilities when dating What do you think your rights are? What responsibilities do you have?

Activity Think about a romantic relationship that you are in, were in, or a friend is in and list all of the following that apply: –One partner checks up on the other by asking who they are with, calling frequently, stopping by work, etc. –One partner puts the other down by name calling or public humiliation –One tries to control the other (telling them who they can hang out with, who they can see, making them stay home, etc.) –One says jealousy is a sign of love –One partner blames the other one for mostly everything

Total up number statements that apply to the relationship you were looking at. – 1 low –2 moderate –3 high

Teen Dating & Violence

I. Teen dating violence often is hidden because teenagers typically: are inexperienced with dating relationships. are pressured by peers to act violently. want independence from parents. have "romantic" views of love.

Statistics You dont need to write these down!

About one in three high school students have been or will be involved in an abusive relationship

Forty percent of teenage girls ages 14 to 17 say they know someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend

In one study, from 30 to 50 percent of female high school students reported having already experienced teen dating violence

Teen dating violence most often takes place in the home of one of the partners

In 1995, 7 percent of all murder victims were young women who were killed by their boyfriends

One in five or 20 percent of dating couples report some type of violence in their relationship

One of five college females will experience some form of dating violence

A survey of 500 young women, ages 15 to 24, found that 60 percent were currently involved in an ongoing abusive relationship and all participants had experienced violence in a dating relationship

One study found that 38 percent of date rape victims were young women from 14 to 17 years of age

A survey of adolescent and college students revealed that date rape accounted for 67 percent of sexual assaults

More than half young women raped (68 percent) knew their rapist either as a boyfriend, friend or casual acquaintance

Six out of 10 rapes of young women occur in their own home or a friend or relative's home, not in a dark alley

More than 4 in every 10 incidents of domestic violence involves non-married persons

II. Common clues that indicate a teenager may be experiencing dating violence: Physical signs of injury Truancy, dropping out of school Failing grades Indecision Changes in mood or personality Use of drugs/alcohol Pregnancy Emotional outburst Isolation

III. Teen Dating Safety: Consider double dating early on know exact plans for evening & share w/ friends decreased ability to react under the influence of alcohol or drugs Be assertive Trust your instincts

Warm up Last time I had you write about your best and worst dating moments. Look at that journal. Expand on it or complete it. Be ready to share it with the class.

IV. The Cycle of Violence (see diagram) Explains the pattern of violence in relationships Typically repeats itself until the victim can escape The more the cycle repeats the more difficult it is for the victim to escape Repetition brings increased violence

FAQs What kind of abuse occurs in relationships? What are some early warning signs that my partner might abuse me? I get jealous sometimes. Does that mean I'm an abuser or potential abuser? I thought my partner must really love me when my partner gave me a cell phone. Now my partner wants to know where I am all the time. Is this normal?

FAQs My partner doesn't get mad very often, but when s/he does get mad it scares me. How can I tell if this is a warning sign of abuse? I've tried several times to end my relationship, but my partner says life would not be worth living without me. I love my partner and don't want to hurt my partner. What should I do? I have a friend who I think is in an abusive relationship. I want to help my friend. Is there anything I can do?