PARENTING STYLES

aUTHORITATIVE DEFINITION: high expectations for the child, but tempered with understanding and support Structure; planned bedtime; household rules Consequences for breaking rules Child understands expectations Expectations are reasonable Healthy, open line of communication

Impact of authoritative PARENTING Authoritative parents raise a child in an environment that provides both security and confidence. helps build his self-esteem. learns valuable social skills and is able to have healthy relationships with others

NEGLECTFUL DEFINITION: parent does not care for the child’s emotional or physical needs Does not provide a safe space where the child can share their experiences and get positive feedback Parents are not involved in the child’s life; does not know teachers, friends, etc. Parents are often away from the child

Impact of neglectful parenting Child has no trust foundation with their parents from which to explore the world. Children who have a negative or absent relationship with their parent will have a harder time forming relationships with other people, particularly children their age.

permissive DEFINITION:  These parents are responsive but not demanding. The benefit of this parenting style is that they are usually very nurturing and loving. No set limits or rules Parent avoids conflict with the child Best friend rather than parent

Impact of permissive parenting One study found that teens with permissive parents are three times more likely to engage in heavy underage alcohol consumption. This is likely do to their lack of consequences for their behavior. insecurity in children from of lack of set boundaries poor social skills, such as sharing, from lack of discipline self-centeredness poor academic success from lack of motivation clashing with authority

authoritarian DEFINITION: also called strict parenting, is characterized by parents who are demanding but not responsive. They usually rely on punishment to demand obedience very strict rules that should be followed no matter what “Because I said so” “My way or the highway” Child has few choices and decisions about their own life Using punishment as a means of getting your child to do what you ask. Does it work? warmth and nurturing is lacking

Impact of authoritarian parenting low self-esteem being fearful or shy associating obedience with love having difficulty in social situations possibly misbehaving when outside of parental care. 

Adverse childhood experiences Before your 18th birthday, did a parent or other adult in the household often or very often… swear at you, insult you, put you down, or humiliate you? OR act in a way that made you afraid that you might be physically hurt? (VERBAL ABUSE)

2. Before your 18th birthday, did a parent or other adult in the household often or very often…push, grab, slap, or throw something at you OR ever hit you so hard that you had marks or were injured? (PHYSICAL ABUSE)

3. Before your 18th birthday, did an adult or person at least five years older than you ever…touch or fondle you or have you touch their body in a sexual way or attempt or actually have intercourse with you? (SEXUAL ABUSE)

4. Before your eighteenth birthday, did you often or very often feel that no one in your family loved you or thought you were important or special? OR feel that your family didn’t look out for each other, feel close to each other, or support each other? (EMOTIONAL ABUSE)

Adverse childhood experiences 5. Before your 18th birthday, did you often or very often feel that you didn’t have enough to eat, had to wear dirty clothes, and had no one to protect you OR your parents were too drunk or high to take care of you or take you to the doctor if necessary?

Adverse childhood experiences 6. Before your 18th birthday, was a biological parent ever lost to you through divorce, abandonment, or other reason?

Adverse childhood experiences 7. Before your 18th birthday, was your mother or stepmother often or very often pushed, grabbed, slapped or had something thrown at her? OR sometimes, often, or very often kicked, bitten, hit with a fist, or hit with something hard? OR ever repeatedly hit over at least a few minutes or threatened with a gun or knife? (DOMESTIC VIOLENCE)

Adverse childhood experiences 8. Before your 18th birthday, did you live with anyone who was a problem drinker or alcoholic, or who used street drugs?

Adverse childhood experiences 9. Before your 18th birthday, was a household member depressed or mentally ill, or did a household member attempt suicide?

Adverse childhood experiences 10. Before your 18th birthday, did a household member go to jail/prison?

Outcomes of a.c.e.

In terms of being a good parent, why do you think it is important for you to have a healthy relationship with your partner?