Banking Time Treatment Strategy
Attachment Problems as Relationship Disturbances Interactions become constricted and centered around anger, non-compliance, acting-out behavior Global, Negative, rigid, transitional beliefs form about relationship— “always, never” black-white filters Negative beliefs influence parent and child behavior, creating a self-fulfilling process Pattern leads to secure-base failures and increased emotion—behavior dysregulation
Banking Time Rationale Attachment Disturbance—an over-drafted bank account all relationships have an emotional bank account this account influences the quality of the interactions between two individuals positive experiences serve as emotional deposits, where as negative or stressful experiences serve as withdrawals the normal day-to-day interactions between parents and children are usually sufficient for maintaining balance between deposits and withdrawals however, in some instances difficulties arise (family stress, parents stress, child temperament issues, etc.) that lead to an imbalance favoring withdrawals this leads to a stressed relationship or an attachment wound consequently, children become angry and defiant toward what they perceive a threat to the attachment relationship this frequently angers the parent, leading to more stressful parent-child interactions, thus completing a vicious cycle banking time is a method for repairing wound and restoring the relationship balance This will increase child compliance and cooperation
HOW TO Basic: tell child you want spend some special time with him Select a good time and place--logistics Child selects activity Parents primary job: to follow child’s lead No commands; No questions Learn the art of commentary
How to Be in the now Show interest Emotionally engage, without taking over Discover at least one new, interesting thing about child Journaling your experience
Dealing with Resistance Two basic categories Outcome Resistance—feared outcome Scape-goating Role reversal Fear of intimacy Fantasy Bond Process Resistance— the steps are too painful or difficult Taking time and space Lack of support Lack of resources
Four Strategies Magic button Paradoxical CBA Family of Origin interview Mirroring Empathy