Session Four: Building Personal Responsibility Overview Session One: Healthy Relationships Session Two: Building a strong family Session Three: Meeting Our Children’s needs Session Four: Building Personal Responsibility Session Five: Teaching Healthy Relationships Session Six: Our long term aim—loving our kids so they live God’s Kingdom
Session Four: Building Personal Responsibility
Levels of Relationships in our Family life Husband & Wife
Children Husband & Wife
Extended family Children Husband & Wife
Close friends Extended family Children Husband & Wife
Other friends Close friends Extended family Children Husband & Wife
Other friends Other acquaintances Husband & Wife Close friends Extended family Children Husband & Wife
Couple discussion: Where are the boundaries in our marriage? What boundaries do we have in our family? What changes do we need to consider making?
Build freedom through use of Boundaries The foundation of the family is unconditional love. A child growing up wants and needs to know where the boundaries are and who is going to enforce them. When boundaries don’t exist people manipulate us by: Guilt Demanding an explanation Anger Whining Martyrdom
Changing how we relate from fear and punishment to love and freedom
When love and freedom replace fear and punishment as the motivating forces in the relationship between parent and child, the quality of life improves dramatically for everyone.
How to Set Boundaries Start Young Choose the right battles Gradually extend the boundaries Work Together
Discussion: Do we want to make the shift from fear and punishment to love and freedom in our family? How will we make this change? What help do we need as a family?
Quick! Escape Have a coffee break