What is sexual violence? According to the National Youth Violence Prevention Resource Center, sexual violence occurs when there is forced or unwanted sexual activity or rape. It is also considered sexual abuse to coerce or pressure someone to have sex or try to engage in sexual activity with someone who is under the influence of alcohol or drugs.

What is Teen Dating Violence? Teen dating violence is defined as psychological/emotional, verbal, physical or sexual abuse Including forced isolation, threats and/or intimidation Occurring in the context of a casual or serious (long term) dating relationship. Both males and females can be perpetrators of teen dating violence.

CONSENT! is what makes SEX Legal!

Consent is: Freely given. Consenting is a choice you make without pressure, manipulation, or under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Reversible. Anyone can change their mind about what they feel like doing, anytime. Even if you’ve done it before, you can say NO! Informed. You can only consent to something if you have the full story. For example, if someone says they’ll use a condom and then they don’t, there isn’t full consent. Enthusiastic. When it comes to sex, you should only do stuff you WANT to do, not things that you feel you’re expected to do. Specific. Saying yes to one thing (like kissing) doesn’t mean you’ve said yes to others (like having sex). You get the final say over what happens with your body. It doesn’t matter if you’ve hooked up before or even if you said yes earlier and then changed your mind. You’re allowed to say “stop” at any time, and your partner needs to respect that.

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Dating Violence, Sexual Assault, and Rape Prevention 1 in 10 teens will be hurt on purpose by someone they are dating. 1 in 9 teen girls will be forced to have sex. 1 in 5 young women will be a victim of sexual assault while they are in college. Anyone can be a victim, anyone can be a perpetrator. We can all help to prevent it.

True or False Most people are raped by strangers. 78% of perpetrators were known to the victim. Sexual assault and domestic violence crimes are usually reported to authorities. Only 33% of teens report. * Individuals who commit rape are mentally ill or psychotic and cannot help themselves. Very few perpetrators are mentally incompetent and/or out of touch with reality.  Rapes may be planned or carried out by acquaintances, intimate partners, family members or strangers.

The victim must have “asked for it” by being seductive, careless, drunk, high, etc. No one asks to be abused, injured, or humiliated.  This line of thought blames the victim for what happened instead of the perpetrator who chose to commit the crime.  Individuals of all ages, all genders, and all walks of life, have been targets of sexual assault.  Not one of them “caused” their assailant to commit a crime against them. If you wouldn’t have been drinking, you wouldn’t have been sexually assaulted. Alcohol is a weapon that some perpetrators use to control their victim and render them helpless.  As part of their plan, an assailant may encourage the victim to use alcohol, or identify an individual who is already drunk.  Alcohol is not a cause of rape; it is only one of many tools that perpetrators use.

Rape is an act of power and control, not sex. Rape is caused by the perpetrator’s uncontrollable sexual urge. Rape is an act of power and control, not sex. In addition, one of  the biggest myths about rape is that it happens out of sexual desire. Sexual assault is highly sexualized in our society due to the link between sex and violence prevalent in our culture. Many people have sexual desires, but not everyone commits sexual assault. Survivors of rape are not always those we would consider sexually attractive, such as children or the elderly. Most rapists have available sexual relationships. By making the issue about sex and not about  violence, this crime seems more acceptable and less severe The rapist is allowed then to use the excuse that s/he was simply desiring sex, and just "took it too far".

Healthy relationships should be fun. TRUE Healthy relationships make us feel good about ourselves and contribute to positive self-esteem. We feel appreciated and accepted for who we are.

Jealousy is a sign of love. FALSE Some people may see jealousy as being protective of their partner but jealousy can be about power, control and manipulation. Unhealthy relationships can lead to abusive relationships.

If someone is drunk or high they cannot give consent to take part in sexual activity TRUE Often known as “drug rape” or “date rape”, drug-facilitated sexual assault is when someone uses the fact that you have taken or been given alcohol or drugs to sexually assault you. This sexual assault can be anything from unwanted kissing or touching to intercourse.

Facts about dating violence Roughly 1.5 million high school boys and girls in the U.S. admit to being intentionally hit or physically harmed in the last year by someone they are romantically involved with. Teens who suffer dating abuse are subject to long-term consequences like alcoholism, eating disorders, promiscuity, thoughts of suicide, and violent behavior. 1 in 3 young people will be in an abusive or unhealthy relationship. The tricky question: what does an unhealthy relationship even looks like? We've created a guide to help you spot the signs. Pre-sign up for 1 in 3 of Us, launching May 1! 33% of adolescents in America are victim to sexual, physical, verbal, or emotional dating abuse. In the U.S., 25% of high school girls have been abused physically or sexually. Teen girls who are abused this way are 6 times more likely to become pregnant or contract a sexually transmitted infection (STI).

Females between the ages of 16 and 24 are roughly 3 times more likely than the rest of the population to be abused by an intimate partner. 8 States in the U.S. do not consider a violent dating relationship domestic abuse. Therefore, adolescents, teens, and 20-somethings are unable to apply for a restraining order for protection from the abuser. Violent behavior often begins between 6th and 12th grade. 72% of 13 and 14-year-olds are “dating.” 50% of young people who experience rape or physical or sexual abuse will attempt to commit suicide. Only 1/3 of the teens who were involved in an abusive relationship confided in someone about the violence. Teens who have been abused hesitate to seek help because they do not want to expose themselves or are unaware of the laws surrounding domestic violence. Feeling Down? Talk to a trained crisis counselor. Text “DS” TO 741- 741. Free, 24/7, Confidential

1. Only attractive, young women are sexually assaulted. Nobody is immune to sexual assault. Women and men, children and seniors, people with differing abilities - people who have been sexually assaulted or sexually abused are found in every city and small town, in every cultural and demographic segment of our society. The vast majority of sexual assault victims are women. In fact, it's very likely that each of us knows someone who has experienced sexual assault or abuse during their lifetime. 2. Sexual assault only occurs in dark, isolated places. More than half of all sexual assaults happen in the survivor’s own home, or within 1 mile of it. Another 20% of sexual assaults happen in the home of a friend, neighbor or relative. 3. It’s only sexual assault if someone has physical injuries or was threatened with a weapon. Sexual assault is any sexual activity without consent regardless of whether or not there are injuries present or if a weapon was used.

4. It is impossible for women to sexually assault men. Women can sexually assault men. Sexual assault of a male by a female does not have to involve penile penetration 5. Males are only assaulted by gay men. Same gender assault (male to male or female to female) can also occur. Sexual Assault is about exerting power and control, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. The vast majority of male offenders who sexually abuse or assault other men identify themselves as heterosexual. Some offenders may target males because it gives them a greater feeling of dominance, power or control. 6. If sexual assault is not reported to the police right away, nothing can be done? Sexual assault can be reported to the police at any time. It is never too late to report a sexual assault. There are many resources available when a person is ready to access them. Whatever is needed to feel safe and heal is for each individual to decide. If you choose to seek medical attention, keep in mind that there is a 72-hour window in which to collect DNA. If you want to keep evidence at this point, don’t bathe or change your clothes. If you choose to report the crime to the police, you may do so whenever you want. Remember that there is no one-size-fits-all method for healing; it takes time and is a unique process for each survivor.

SEXTORTION  is a form of sexual exploitation that employs non-physical forms of coercion to extort sexual favors from the victim. Sextortion refers to the broad category of sexual exploitation in which abuse of power is the means of coercion, as well as to the category of sexual exploitation in which threatened release of sexual images or information is the means of coercion. https://youtu.be/a440H146l14

SEXTORTION  is a form of sexual exploitation that employs non-physical forms of coercion to extort sexual favors from the victim. Sextortion refers to the broad category of sexual exploitation in which abuse of power is the means of coercion, as well as to the category of sexual exploitation in which threatened release of sexual images or information is the means of coercion. https://youtu.be/F5JutJ9hcyw

Resources loveisrespect.org ourvoicenc.org crisis line: 828-255-7576 rainn.org www.dosomething.org nccadv.org helpmateonline.org crisis line: 828-254-0516 211 United Way helpline

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