I can talk about feeling sad when I have lost something Year 2 – Life changes and transitions I can talk about feeling sad when I have lost something This lesson fits into the Life Changes and Transitions strand. It focuses on exploring loss and the associated feelings. Children discuss situations in which someone might experience loss, including change and the loss of material possessions/ something which is special to someone. Children will also be given opportunities to put themselves in someone else’s shoes and explore how they might offer support to someone who has lost something. © Leeds South and East CCG

Learning outcomes Knowledge Skills I know about change and loss and the associated feelings (including moving home, losing toys, pets or friends) I understand how it feels to lose something special I can describe times when people might feel loss I can tell how feelings of loss e.g. a pet, can make my body feel I can listen to others talking about loss 2

How we will work together Can you remember the ground rules we have already talked about, let’s take a minute to think about them. Teacher notes Read these through with the children. Hopefully the ground rules will be displayed in the classroom already. 3

What do we already know? Group discussion What might be special to someone? Is it just material things which might be special? What else might be special to someone? What might be special to someone? Groups to match pictures of special objects to whom they think the objects belong. Groups/ pairs to discuss why that particular object might be special to that person. ‘How might that person feel if they lost that object?’, ‘Is it just material things which might be special?’, ‘What else might be special to someone?’ (memories for example). 4

Let’s get started Group discussion What might teddy have lost’? How might teddy feel about losing … ? How might losing … make teddy’s body feel? Group discussion Introduce puppet/teddy. [name/teddy] has lost something. What might they have lost? How might they feel about losing... (use children’s suggestions or include own relevant suggestion? How might losing… make teddy’s body feel? Record names of feelings on post-it notes or speech bubbles and display. 5

Dogger Watch the video clip https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jNOYgRf5jes Right click on ‘Video link’ hyperlink and click ‘open hyperlink’ to access video. Share online story ‘Dogger’ by Shirley Hughes; (Stop at 00:42) discuss, ‘Why do you think that Dogger is special to Dave?’ (Stop at 03:14) discuss, ‘How do you think Dave is feeling about losing Dogger?’, ‘How might his body be feeling?’ ‘Dave is missing Dogger; what does this mean/ how might this make him feel?’ (Stop at 05:40) ‘What could Dave do?’ Watch the video clip 6

Dogger Why do you think Dogger is special to Dave? How do you think Dave is feeling about losing Dogger? How might his body be feeling? How might this make him feel? What could Dave do? What does it mean to miss something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jNOYgRf5jes Right click on ‘Video link’ hyperlink and click ‘open hyperlink’ to access video. Share online story ‘Dogger’ by Shirley Hughes; (Stop at 00:42) discuss, ‘Why do you think that Dogger is special to Dave?’ (Stop at 03:14) discuss, ‘How do you think Dave is feeling about losing Dogger?’, ‘How might his body be feeling?’ ‘Dave is missing Dogger; what does this mean/ how might this make him feel?’ (Stop at 05:40) ‘What could Dave do?’ 7

Loss and Change Group discussion Why might somebody lose something? Why might someone feel similar feelings when they have lost something and when a change happens? What makes you feel better when you’re upset? When someone loses something they might feel … Acknowledge the fact that people lose things for a variety of different reasons. Can the children think of any? Discuss the fact that someone might have similar feelings when something changes (moving house; moving onto the next year group, etc). Discuss why. Can the children use the sentence starters to say how feelings of loss make their body feel? Share ideas with a partner/ as a class. Discuss with the children what makes them feel better when they’re upset. 8

Draw and Write Imagine that you have lost your favourite toy, like Dave in our story. Draw how you would feel Draw a picture of the person/people who might make you feel better Draw a picture of how these people might make you feel better ‘Draw and write’ activity about what might make people feel better when they are upset about losing something or somebody. Children to complete drawings based on the questions below;  Imagine that you have lost your favourite toy, like Dave in our story. Draw how you would feel. Draw a picture of the person/people who might make you feel better when you are feeling sad about losing your favourite toy (the children can draw as many people as they want to). Draw a picture of how these people might make you feel better. 9

Put yourself in someone else’s shoes Group discussion Let’s share our ideas… How could you make someone who has lost something feel better? How could you make someone who is experiencing a big change feel better? Come back together and share their ideas about how you could make someone feel better if they have lost something/ if they are experiencing a big change in their life. Note ideas down as appropriate. 10

How has our learning progressed? Talk partners How might feelings of loss make your body feel? Practice what you might say to teddy What advice might you give him? Re-cap LOs and discuss. Teddy has lost her scarf/bag/bracelet (as appropriate and relevant to the children). Children to practice in pairs what they might say to Teddy. Record ideas on speech bubbles to display. Link back to children’s ideas about how feelings of loss can make your body feel. 11

Taking the learning away Can you try talking to others about how you are feeling? Can you try asking if someone is ok or how someone is feeling today? Can you suggest the kind of things you could do or say to support someone who is experiencing a big change, loss? 12

Additional resources and help Talk to your teacher or an adult in school Talk to your Mum, Dad or someone you trust at home about how you are feeling If you have them: – Write your worry down and post it in the class worry box – Talk to a peer mediator in your school – Write your worry down on the worry wall on the school’s website Contact: www.mindmate.org.uk/ im-a-young-person Where can I go for help? 12