Co-Creating the Coaching Relationship A webinar created for the Wisconsin Conference, UCC Ircel Harrison, Facilitator

Objectives Participants will be able to: Explain the coaching process in their own words: What is coaching? What are the roles of coach and client? Identify what happens in an initial session. Develop rapport with the client. Establish the coaching agreement (time, frequency, length, etc.) Bring closure to the coaching conversation in a final session.

ICF Core Competencies Addressed 2. Establishing the Coaching Agreement—Ability to understand what is required in the specific coaching interaction and to come to agreement with the prospective and new client about the coaching process and relationship. 3. Establishing Trust and Intimacy with the Client—Ability to create a safe, supportive environment that produces ongoing mutual respect and trust. ICF Core Competencies Addressed

Definitions “Session”—one meeting of the coach and the client “Conversation”—a series of coaching sessions “Relationship”—the interaction between coach and client

“Christian coaching is a focused Christ-centered relationship that cultivates a person’s sustained growth and action.” (Miller and Hall, Coaching for Christian Leaders, p. 10) “Coaching is a growth-oriented, strategic relationship. Coaching links two peers, equals who are in distinct roles, to collaborate as thought partners and to find the way forward for the person being coached.” (Dale, Growing Agile Leaders, p. 60) Coaching is “partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential.” (International Coach Federation) What is coaching?

Common Factors Growth and achieving one’s potential Collaboration (like Dale’s “two peers”) or partnering Focus on person being coached (PBC). Focused—clarity. Common Factors

Role Play of an Initial Session

Questions or areas to explore during the initial conversation Coach can develop rapport by sharing some things about yourself Clarify the role of coaching vs. counseling (client sets the agenda, conversations are kept between the two of you except if there is indication of self-harm or harm to church) Ask questions based on what they shared in their Interest Form Review the Policies of the coaching program and the coaching agreement to clarify questions the person may have Explore questions like: What do you hope to gain from this coaching relationship? Where do you envision yourself being when we complete 6 coaching sessions? What are the specific goals or areas of ministry you hope to work on Tell me about your congregation/ministry context (From Guidelines for Starting Conversations on the Right Foot) Questions or areas to explore during the initial conversation

Brainstorm What are some best practices for the initial session you have learned?

Effective Closure to a Coaching Relationship: The Person Being Coached What have you gained from this coaching relationship? Have you achieved your goal(s)? How will you continue your forward momentum? Where will you find ongoing support/accountability? How will you celebrate your success? (From Suggestions for Bringing a Coaching Relationship to a Close)

Effective Closure to a Coaching Relationship: The Coach What did I say or do that was particularly helpful to you? What did I do or say that was not particularly helpful to you? Has this coaching experience been what you had hoped it would be? If so, in what ways? If not, what would have made this a better experience for you? Do you have any feedback for me so that I can continue to improve my coaching? (From Suggestions for Bringing a Coaching Relationship to a Close)

Brainstorm: What are some best practices for the closing session you have learned?

Questions about Policies, Procedures, etc.

Planned Webinars DEEPENING THE COACHING RELATIONSHIP WITH ASSESSMENTS COACHING PRESENCE ASKING POWERFUL QUESTIONS

Ircel Harrison Coaching Coordinator Pinnacle Leadership Associates ircelh@pinnlead.com 615.423.8223 Contact Information