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Comfort vs Discomfort Comfort Security Healing Identity Discomfort Learning Change GROWTH

“Happiness Now” Pressure Unattainable Conflicts with resilience Removes opportunity for resilience “practice” Causes us to change the narrative to support everything being ok Limits the resources we offer We’re terrible at predicting it for others

WHY DO ADULTS SAY NO? Love Fear Guilt Genuine enjoyment responsibility Future consequences Relationship rupture Guilt

CULTURE OF “SUCCESSFUL” FAMILIES Myth: “Only I can fix this!” Truth: Failure must be experienced.

RESILIENCE CHALLENGES Mistakes Accidents Pain Social consequences Judgment 11:00 News…

HOW DOES FAILURE HELP? independence → confidence Leads to competence Builds relationship Teaches resilience. 7

When-not-if Language Set Remove Model Set expectations Model the cycle Remove Remove the premise of failure Set Set expectations When-not-if Language

STRESSORS New stimuli Unknown patterns Change Perceived lack of support system LACK OF CONTROL

Resilience in Practice Build trust Demonstrate gratitude Express empathy Connect resources Offer solutions Resilience in Practice

5 protective factors in resilience social competence problem-solving skills Autonomy sense of purpose use of storytelling 5 protective factors in resilience

RESILIENCE Mistakes Praise Life lessons Choices Risk-taking Resources!

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