THE POWER OF FAILURE Teaching Resilience at Camp Deborah Gilboa, MD www.AskDrG.com
hap·pi· ness: noun good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy INGREDIENTS: Confidence Competence Relationships
CAMP
WHAT DO THEY LEARN AT CAMP?
WHY DO PARENTS SAY NO?
CULTURE OF “SUCCESSFUL” FAMILIES Myth vs Truth
WHY WOULD WE LET THEM TRY? Independence Competence Relationships Resilience. 7
SOURCE: Journal of Child and Family Studies, Feb 2013
THE COST “Students who reported having over-controlling parents reported significantly higher levels of depression and less satisfaction with life. Furthermore, the negative effects of helicopter parenting on college students’ well-being were largely explained by the perceived violation of students’ basic psychological needs for autonomy and competence.”
WHY DO ADULTS STEP IN? Love. Fear. Guilt. 11
RESILIENCE CHALLENGES Mistakes Accidents Pain Social consequences Judgment 11:00 News…
WHAT ADULTS NEED TO REMEMBER Adult involvement supports Safety Growth Learning Adult involvement harms Confidence Competence Relationships
PARENT PARTNERING SHARE expertise Focus GOALS! Decision-making