Art or Skill ? Listening requires effort & concentration. Robert G. Cole Jr.Sr. H.S. Barbara Lien 4/15/2019
Two Kinds of Listeners PASSIVE: all the responsibility for successful communication lies with the person doing the talking. 1. Causes us to be “lazy”. 2. The talker does “all” the work. ACTIVE: effective listeners play an active role by guiding the talker with feedback and thinking. Robert G. Cole Jr.Sr. H.S. Barbara Lien 4/15/2019
Hearing is not Listening! When you “Listen”, you think. That’s why you’re tired out after a long lecture where notes were taken. When you listen, you intercept a message and translate it. When you “hear”, no direct interception or translation or comprehension of the message takes place, more of a sensing what was said. Robert G. Cole Jr.Sr. H.S. Barbara Lien 4/15/2019
Advantages: Stay out of trouble More up to date Improve relationships with friends Increases knowledge Robert G. Cole Jr.Sr. H.S. Barbara Lien 4/15/2019
Why we listen? INFORMATIVE : The most common reason to listen, 45% to 90% of the time in school is devoted to listening for information (28 minutes out of every 60). ENTERTAINMENT/Relax/Appreciative: For enjoyment, relaxation, and fun – music, conversation, radio, etc. CRITICAL: To analyze or compare – to deal with cause and effect situations DELIBERATE: To judge or evaluate – to be able to draw a conclusion 4/15/2019
Why We Listen? DISCRIMNATIVE: used to single out one particular sound in a noisy environment. EMPATHIC: encourages people to talk freely without fear of embarrassment, “sounding board” Robert G. Cole Jr.Sr. H.S. Barbara Lien 4/15/2019
Why we don’t listen? It’s hard work. We’re lazy! We want to be entertained. We’re too tired or hungry. We’re impatient and tune out when we don’t understand something. We want to interrupt and speak, instead of listening. We yield to distractions. Internal (with in the mind) External (environment & bodily comfort) 4/15/2019
Listening Tips * Get enough sleep, and eat healthy meals. Work at it. * Don’t yield to “any” distractions. Take notes. * Don’t talk! Robert G. Cole Jr.Sr. H.S. Barbara Lien 4/15/2019
Interesting Facts! 1. People can speak comfortably at 120 to 180 words a minute. 2. People have the ability to listen six times faster than they speak. 3. “Listening Spare Time”: we sandwich our own thoughts between the ideas of a speaker – internal distraction at times. Robert G. Cole Jr.Sr. H.S. Barbara Lien 4/15/2019