Empowered by Emotions Presented by Lisa C. Welsher

Background Information Emotional Intelligence: The Good News! What distinguishes great leaders from merely good ones? It isn’t IQ or technical skills, says Daniel Goleman. It’s emotional intelligence: a group of five skills that enable the best leaders to maximize their own and their followers’ performance.* The Emotional Intelligence skills include: Self Awareness – Knowing one’s emotions, strengths, weaknesses, drives, values, and goals—and their impact on others Self-regulation – Controlling or redirecting disruptive emotions and impulses Motivation – Being driven to achieve for the sake of achievement Empathy – Considering others’ feelings, especially when making decisions Social Skill – Managing relationships to move people in desired directions *(Harvard Business Review: What Makes a Leader?) Background Information Presented by Lisa C. Welsher www.EmpoweredByEmotions.com

Background Information Emotional Intelligence: The Bad News! “We are the most in-debt, obese, addicted and medicated adult cohort in U.S. history.” - New York Times best selling author Brené Brown Background Information Presented by Lisa C. Welsher www.EmpoweredByEmotions.com

Background Information What our Western Culture has to say… Background Information Presented by Lisa C. Welsher www.EmpoweredByEmotions.com

About Emotions Emotions: The “Good” ones and the “Bad” ones Negative Emotions Anger Apathy & Boredom Guilt Shame Hatred Sadness Grief Situational Depression Suicidal Urge Fear Worry & Anxiety Confusion Jealousy Envy Panic & Terror Positive Emotions Happiness Joy Excitement Contentment About Emotions Presented by Lisa C. Welsher www.EmpoweredByEmotions.com

The Science of Emotions What are Emotions? In his book, “Self Comes to Mind: Constructing the Conscious Brain,” neuroscientist Dr. Antonio Damasio defines emotions as action-requiring neurological programs.  That’s a mouthful! In simpler terms this means emotions are part of our neurological makeup. Emotions arise for a reason. The Science of Emotions Presented by Lisa C. Welsher www.EmpoweredByEmotions.com

ALL Emotions Serve a Neurological Purpose  Anger  Apathy & Boredom  Guilt  Shame  Hatred  Sadness  Grief  Situational Depression  Contentment  Fear  Worry & Anxiety  Confusion  Jealousy  Envy  Panic & Terror  Happiness  Joy  Excitement Emotions are not bad or negative, it’s our lack of skills in dealing with emotions that’s given Emotions a bad name. The Science of Emotions Presented by Lisa C. Welsher www.EmpoweredByEmotions.com

The Science of Emotions Why do we have Emotions? When an emotion arises, it does so in order to alert you. Emotions are part of your cognition and surface in order to bring something to your attention. Each emotion brings you a specific kind of intelligence and information that is intended to help guide your thoughts, behaviors and action. Emotions are action-requiring neurological programs. The Science of Emotions Presented by Lisa C. Welsher www.EmpoweredByEmotions.com

The Science of Emotions What does action requiring mean? For instance, if you see a plant is dying of dehydration and needs water, you might take the following action: You could personally water it You could ask someone else to water it You could take it outside because it’s raining in order to water it You could even put it in your shower to water it There isn’t just a single action to be taken, but in response to the dehydration it would be a good idea to take some kind of action. The Science of Emotions Presented by Lisa C. Welsher www.EmpoweredByEmotions.com

Karla McLaren’s Language of Emotions- www.karlamclaren.com What action is required? Fear requires that you take action to orient to change and novelty, or to avoid physical harm. Anger requires that you take action to protect or restore your sense of self or your standpoint (or the selves and standpoints of others, if your anger is related to social justice). Guilt requires that you take action to avoid injuring others or yourself. Sadness requires that you take action to let go of something that isn’t working anyway. Grief requires that you actively mourn something that is lost irretrievably. And so forth… Karla McLaren’s Language of Emotions- www.karlamclaren.com The Science of Emotions Presented by Lisa C. Welsher www.EmpoweredByEmotions.com

More on Emotions Emotion Process Workflow Presented by Lisa C. Welsher www.EmpoweredByEmotions.com

More on Emotions Emotion Benefits & Value Why Develop Emotion Awareness & Skills? Find it much easier to accurately recognize emotions in yourself and in others which results in improved intra and interpersonal skills. Cope with emotions with greater ease and agility which means less stress, less confusion and fewer misunderstandings.   Channel emotions with purpose and direction which means faster conflict resolution, stronger relationships and less wasted energy. Engage intelligently with emotions which leads to increased objectivity and empathy for others. More on Emotions Presented by Lisa C. Welsher www.EmpoweredByEmotions.com

More on Emotions Four categories of Emotions Angers Sadnesses Fears The Anger category of emotions focuses on inter and intrapersonal boundaries. These emotions are about conflict, fairness, rules, limits, and behavioral guidelines. The Sadness category of emotions focuses on releasing. These emotions are about stopping, identifying loss, letting go, and recovering. Anger Apathy & Boredom Guilt Shame Hatred Sadness Grief Situational Depression Suicidal Urge Fears Happinesses The Fear category of emotions focuses on safekeeping. These emotions are about instincts, intuition, change, novelty, and physical hazards. The Happiness category of emotions focuses on gratitude and appreciation. These emotions are about peace, harmony, hope, pleasure, satisfaction, confidence, and inspiration. Fear Worry & Anxiety Confusion Jealousy Envy Panic & Terror Happiness Contentment Joy Excitement Modified from Karla McLaren’s Language of Emotions- www.karlamclaren.com More on Emotions Presented by Lisa C. Welsher www.EmpoweredByEmotions.com

More on Emotions Emotion or Feeling? There is often a physiological reaction that accompanies an emotion when it arises. The physical reaction to the emotion is the feeling. More on Emotions Presented by Lisa C. Welsher www.EmpoweredByEmotions.com

More on Emotions Emotion Intensity Levels There are basically ~20 emotions but we experience them with different degrees of accompanying intensity and energy… More on Emotions Presented by Lisa C. Welsher www.EmpoweredByEmotions.com

More on Emotions Emotion Intensity Levels: Anger Example Although there’s the single emotion of Anger, there are countless words used to describe this emotion at it’s various levels of intensity. Aggressive ~ Appalled ~ Belligerent ~ Bitter ~ Contemptuous ~ Disgusted ~ Furious ~ Hateful ~ Hostile ~ Irate ~ Livid ~ Menacing ~ Outraged ~ Ranting ~ Raving ~ Seething ~ Spiteful ~ Vengeful ~ Vicious ~ Vindictive ~ Violent Affronted ~ Aggravated ~ Angry ~ Antagonized ~ Arrogant ~ Bristling ~ Exasperated ~ Incensed ~ Indignant ~ Inflamed ~ Mad ~ Offended ~ Resentful ~ Riled up ~ Sarcastic Annoyed ~ Apathetic ~ Bored ~ Certain ~ Cold ~ Crabby ~ Cranky ~ Critical ~ Cross ~ Detached ~ Displeased ~ Frustrated ~ Impatient ~ Indifferent ~ Irritated ~ Peeved ~ Rankled More on Emotions Presented by Lisa C. Welsher www.EmpoweredByEmotions.com