Skills for Healthy Relationships

One of the most basic human needs is the need to belong and be loved. Relationships are bond or connections you have with other people. Commonly referred to as a romantic connection there are many different types of relationships that are important.

Family-one thing that makes them special is that these relationships last your entire life. Healthy family relationships strengthen all three sides of your health triangle. Friends- a significant relationship between two people that is based on trust, caring, and consideration. This relationship can build your self esteem and help you resist harmful behaviors Community- (citizenship) the way you conduct yourself as a member of the community. Obey laws, being friendly to neighbors and helping to improve the places where they live . Traits of a Healthy Relationship Mutual respect Caring Honesty Commitment Skills for Building a Healthy Relationship Communication Cooperation Compromise 6 traits of good character Trustworthiness Fairness Respect Caring Responsibility Citizenship

Compromise Guidelines: Compromise Activity Directions: Compromising is giving up something in order to reach and agreement. It is a process of giving and taking to agree on a common goal. Using the situations listed, first brainstorm the solutions, then compromise on the final decision. The guidelines for compromising are listed below Compromise Guidelines: Everyone MUST get a chance to voice an opinion. All group members have a say in the final decision Any decision must be approved by everyone in the group. Everyone must agree to support the final decision. Topics: If you could invite any one famous person to school for the day who would it be and why? A gift of $200,000 was given to our school by a wealthy graduate. How should we spend the money? The school has decided to give your class a week long trip anywhere in the world. Where should you go and why?

Respecting Yourself and Others Personal Identity- sense of who you are and where you belong in the world. Personal Value system- beliefs, ideas, and attitudes about yourself, important that help guide the way you live. Upholding your values shows that you respect yourself, and communicating your values to others can help them to respect you too. TREAT PEOPLE THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED!!!! Listen to others Be considerate of other’s feelings Develop mutual trust Be realistic in your expectations

prejudice STEREOTYPE TOLERANCE An unfair opinion or judgment of a particular group of people. STEREOTYPE An exaggerated or oversimplified belief about people who belong to a certain group. TOLERANCE The ability to accept others’ differences

Activity I Get into a small group of 4 and brainstorm on ways teens can discourage prejudice and stereotyping and encourage tolerance. Be ready to share your ideas with the class. Activity II Develop a short slogan (a very brief, attention getting phrase that summarizes a goal, an opinion, or a position) promoting tolerance. Be ready to share your ideas with the class.

COMMUNICATING EFFECTIVELY Communication Styles Aggressive – overly forceful, pushy, or hostile. May involve bullying or intimidation. Passive- unwilling or unable to express thought and feelings in a direct or firm manner Assertive- expressing your views clearly and respectfully. Standing up for yourself while respecting others Complete Math Activity at the end of chapter in book p. 163. Must be handed in in 5 minutes.

Passive, Aggressive, or Assertive Worksheet Directions: Write aggressive, assertive, or passive on a separate sheet of paper to describe the response to each question. Can you help me with my book report? I won’t get a chance to read the whole book. Why should I help you? You’re too lazy! It’s not my problem! Can I borrow your new outfit? I won’t ruin it. Well…I didn’t get a chance to wear it yet, but … well, okay. I need to borrow $50 to pay a traffic ticket. How ‘bout lending it to me? I’m really not able to lend you the money. I can’t help you out. Let’s go to the mall and hang out tonight. There’s nothing better to do. I don’t want to go to the mall tonight. I’d prefer to go to the movies. Can I be on your team for basketball? NO! You stink…besides, we have enough players already! Let’s have a few beers, no one’s home and they’ll never find out. I’m not sure if that’s a good idea -but, okay, I guess it would be OK. Let’s skip school and go to the beach today. I’m not taking a chance like that… I’m going to school. Can I stay at your house for the weekend? Well, I was having a friend from my old school stay over, but OK, I guess. Give me your homework to copy… I was on the phone all night. No, do your own work, you idiot! Can you babysit for me this weekend? I made other plans with my friends, I won’t be able to help you this particular weekend.

Ways to Communicate Speaking Skills- Using the “I” message. Listening Skills- Practice active listening by paying close attention to what someone is saying and communicating. don’t interrupt Show interest Restate what you hear Ask questions Show empathy Nonverbal communication Body language

Quote 2: “The only way to have a friend is to be a friend.” May I Quote You? Directions: Look at the two quotes below and on a piece of paper, write down the quote and what you think the quote means. How can these quotes be related to relationships? Be ready to share your ideas. Quote 1: “You don’t have to blow out my candle to make yours glow brighter.” Quote 2: “The only way to have a friend is to be a friend.”