A value is a standard or a belief. Suppose the value is responsibility A value is a standard or a belief. Suppose the value is responsibility. Your parents, mentors, and teachers teach a value system by setting an example, they express beliefs they want children to cherish. They teach responsibility by setting an example and they work hard. They might give you assignments to complete and make sure that you follow through.

Self-control is the degree to which a person regulates his or her own behavior. A person who uses self-control to act on responsible values has good character. For example, suppose you value honesty. To have good character you must act in ways that are honest. Suppose you go to a store and buy an item. You give the cashier a $10 bill and she gives you change for a $20 bill. If you have good character, you use honesty and avoid the temptation to keep the extra change.

Delayed gratification is voluntarily postponing an immediate reward in order to complete a task before enjoying a reward. Suppose a new movie comes out that you really want to see but you have a test tomorrow. A friend tells you to go to the movie instead of studying. You use self-control and study and delay going to the movie until after the test.

Responsibility Fairness Honesty Respect Trustworthiness Values that are the Building Blocks of Good Character Responsibility Fairness Honesty Respect Trustworthiness Good Citizenship Compassion

The Responsible Decision-Making Model Describe the situation that requires a decision. List possible decisions you might make. Share the list of possible decisions with a parent, guardian, or other responsible adult. Use 6 questions to evaluate the possible consequences of each decision. Will this decision result in actions that promote health? Will this decision result in actions that protect safety? Will this decision result in actions that follow laws? Will this decision result in actions that show respect for myself and others? Will this decision result in actions that follow the guidelines of my parents and of other responsible adults? Will this decision result in actions that demonstrate good character? Decide which decision is most responsible and appropriate. Act on your decision and evaluate results.

Types of Harassment

Intolerance of other ethnic, racial, culture or religious groups Bigotry Intolerance of other ethnic, racial, culture or religious groups

Bullying Any behavior meant to hurt someone; intentionally and repeatedly using one’s power to hurt others.

Cyber-bullying Using computers, cell phones or other electronic means to harass someone.

Gossiping and Spreading Rumors Saying something to damage someone’s reputation.

Rejection Refusing to acknowledge someone---their presence, their value or their worth.

Relational Aggression Acts that harm others through damage to relationships or feelings of acceptance, friendship or group inclusion

What is relational aggression? (Social aggression) alternative name Acts that harm others through damaging a person’s feelings of acceptance, friendship or group inclusion. The relationship with the victim is used as a weapon. It is done on the sly and is therefore much harder to observe than other forms of bullying.

Examples of relational aggression Whispering, talking behind someone’s back Starting rumors Being nice in public, but mean in private Ignoring someone to get one’s way or excluding someone socially for revenge. Using negative body language or facial expressions such as rolled eyes, glares or sneers. Threatening to end a relationship unless the friend agrees to a request. (?) Sending vulgar emails or sending a nasty I.M. with a new username. Writing anonymous notes to a person or passing notes about a person, drawing mean pictures of a person. Writing hateful things about a person on lockers, walls, desks. Bumping into a person or knocking books off desk and saying it was an accident.

Who is involved in relational aggression? Mainly girls. Girls may stay in an abusive relationship to avoid being alone.

Consequences of relational aggression? Eating disorders Depression, and even suicide Teen pregnancy Grownups who can’t interact with peers in a healthy way Girls may enter abusive relationships as adults. They often fail to recognize relational aggression as abuse.

How to avoid relational aggression Learn to recognize anger and learn to express it. Often relational aggression is a response to a perceived insult. Be willing to talk out conflicts instead of being mean on the sly. Secret tactics are fueled by lack of face-to-face confrontation. Realize that conflict-free relationships do not exist. Learn strategies to resolve conflicts. Girls need to choose healthy relationships of all kinds and be aware of aggressive and submissive behaviors in girl’s relationships. People need to acknowledge hidden aggression, so girls who are victimized know they are not alone.

Sexual harassment Any behavior that is uninvited, unwelcome and unwanted and is sexual in nature, such as writing a sexual comment on a bathroom wall or forcibly trying to kiss someone.

Sexual harassment Any behavior that is uninvited, unwelcome and unwanted and is sexual in nature, such as writing a sexual comment on a bathroom wall or forcibly trying to kiss someone.

What To Do If You Are Being Bullied Tell an adult. Tell a friend what is happening. Make friends. Ask the bully to repeat what he or she said. Keep a diary of what is happening. Don’t blame yourself. Be strong. Stay cool. Stand up for yourself. Walk away and ignore the teasing. Don’t bully back lighten the air. Avoid unsafe areas.